Each day we find more and more reasons to develop distance in our relationships. We all are challenged for time and attention. Careers, children, hobbies, side jobs and other things are grasping for our mind-share. We can easily lose focus on those that care about us the most. We have to have time to devote our attention, focus and resources to those we cherish the most: … [Read more...]
5 Ways You May Be Breaking Your Mate Down!
One of the perceived advantages of marriage is the idea of having a companion that will build you up and support you through your ups and downs. Many times, even though we may think we are being good mates, we are the ones breaking our partners down instead of building them up. As a result, many people end up emotionally and mentally exhausted in their relationship. Here are … [Read more...]
6 Messages That Prevent African-Americans from Achieving Emotional and Financial Stability
By Dr. Dwayne Buckingham Messages are forms of communication that are transmitted to individuals either in writing, in speeches or in behavior with the intent of informing or advising them to take action. Messages can either be uplifting or destructive. As an individual who was raised in the 70s, I heard messages that were empowering, heart-felt, educational and uplifting. … [Read more...]
I’m Struggling to Become A More Submissive Wife
OK, my tongue is about to start bleeding. I'm biting down on it, trying not to say anything "flip", especially in front of the kids. You see, I'm practicing submission. Yes, I said "practicing" because I haven't always been generous in this aspect of my marriage. If you recall in one of my first BMWK posts, I shared with you some magical things that happened for me and how I … [Read more...]
You said, “I do!” Now do it! – How to Keep a Marriage Strong in Phase 3
Phase 1 Do you remember when you were dating and you would talk on the phone for hours? You went through that cute "No, YOU hang up...No,YOU hang up...No, YOU hang up" phase. You couldn't keep your eyes nor your hands off of each other and your address was cloud 9? Phase 2 Then, there was the phase two where you started learning more about each other. You revealed your … [Read more...]
How To Pursue Your Career Without Losing Sight Of Your Marriage
by Jon Carroll When my wife Nkechi and I got married in 2002, we were both rising in our respective professions. She was working as an economist in New York and I was a classroom teacher in New Jersey. Both of us were following in the footsteps of our parents. Within a year of saying "I do", my wife decided that she had paid her dues as an economist long enough and … [Read more...]
We’ve All Seen That Couple
We've all seen that couple at a nearby restaurant table, sitting in silence with tension, anger, and sadness seated like uninvited guests --guests who refuse to leave until someone is mature enough to apologize. I recognize that couple because my husband and I have been them on numerous occasions. However, after 16 years of marriage, we don't allow problems to progress to … [Read more...]
“Head of Household” – Does It Still Mean What It Used To?
by Michaela Stephens Recently I was reading an article on another blog geared towards women. The article discussed gender norms, specifically in communities of color. The big center of the debate was referring to men as the head of the household. The argument was deciding whether or not usage of this term was antiquated in today's climate, or whether it was still relevant. … [Read more...]
Providing Spousal Support In Your Marriage
When you look up the word "support" in the thesaurus, do you know what other words come up? Back Cornerstone Flotation Footing Foundation Groundwork Guide Hold Means Reinforcement Rest Rib Stay And that's not all of them! Those are just a few of the words that could be applied to your marriage today, and for the rest of your lives. When people … [Read more...]
Four Steps To Find A Husband
by LaToya Irving I have read and heard so much about what a woman has to do to find a husband that I've compiled four simple steps I believe will help eliminate much of the fuss. Keep in mind that not all results are typical! 1. Be Real Answer the Following Questions...Truthfully Why do you want to get married? What is marriage to you? Do you want a marriage or a … [Read more...]
Eight Ways To Be More Charitable Toward Your Spouse
By Jeanine DeHoney Sometimes we spouses forget the basic rule of charity, which is, that it begins with each other. The word charity is neither a sensual or romantic word and not at the top of our list for conveying to our spouse. However, it is necessary if we want to safeguard our marriage. It will not only help our partner feel cherished but will impart lifelong lessons for … [Read more...]
Do You Have A Marriage Emergency Contact List?
Conflict arises in marriage. It's natural to need an ear or a shoulder sometimes, but when we need our moments to vent or to get some helpful feedback, we need to be careful that those we're allowing into our marriage aren't doing more harm than good with their advice, or lack thereof. Be sure that you're talking about your marriage with the right people by making a list of … [Read more...]
Are You Your Spouse's Greatest Supporter?
"Small thing to a giant" is one of my favorite quotes spoken to me by my husband. He has this amazing way of reminding me just how resilient I really am; especially during the moments I find myself stressed about a situation. He knows it's just what I need to hear to get me back on track and remain focused. My husband truly believes that I am able to do any and everything I … [Read more...]
Don’t Shut Out The One Who Loves You
There's always a reason to just get by in this life"”in the workplace, in traffic, at the grocery store or anywhere else you come into contact with other people. The following are just a couple of the reasons: Everyone else is doing it. It works. I'm tired. I'm not trying to go there. No one cares about me. I have to look out for Number One. These coping … [Read more...]
When A Couple Is In Trouble, What Do You Do?
Typically, our first reaction to a couple in trouble is to mind our own business. Some of us think that it's that couple's problem and hopefully and prayerfully the situation will work itself out. But today, with such a high divorce rate, our marriages need as much support as they can receive. So instead of minding our own business, when given the opportunity, let's … [Read more...]