How many of you have ever met a couple that really seemed to have it together and thought to yourself, “wow they are a great couple. I’d like to have a relationship like that one day." Not only do they appear to love each other deeply, they also seem to really like each other. They laugh and have fun together. She is a good wife and mother. He is a good husband and … [Read more...]
The Biggest Problem with Being in a Relationship with a Hustler
Hustle means to work continuously in an energetic way to pursue a desired outcome. Hustler, on the other hand, is defined as a person that uses unscrupulous methods to get what they want. Are you Hustling? When you really stop to examine your relationship, are you hustling daily to ensure your relationship is one that you truly desire and deserve? Or, are you pretending to … [Read more...]
Better Safe than Sorry: 4 Sleepover Rules Every Parent Should Follow Before Sending Your Kids Off
I have been called the most over-protective parent in the universe. I have to be honest and confess that at times that statement is 110% accurate. Yes, I do take my job as a parent very seriously, as I recognize the enormous responsibilities that come along with raising children. My youngest son recently became a full-fledged card carrying teenager. For his 13th birthday … [Read more...]
Successful Marriages Don’t “Just Happen” – Try These 3 Intentional Acts to Take Your Love to the Next Level
Intention is defined as being deliberate, showing earnest and eager attention; having resolve to accomplish a goal, aim or objective, having purpose. In order to maintain a happy, healthy, loving relationship couples have to learn to love, speak, and act intentionally. Having a successful marriage requires the following commitment, focus, and action. First couples must … [Read more...]
22 Amazingly Easy, Step by Step Tips on How to Speak Your Mate’s Love Language
Couples often miss out on opportunities to bond with and express love to their mates in ways that are truly meaningful to them. When connecting with their mate, couples must be intentional, considerate, and selfless and learn the difference between pleasing their mate by doing what makes their mate feel good versus doing what makes them personally feel good. In order to do … [Read more...]
18 Ways to Engage in Public Foreplay Without Crossing the Line
The word foreplay typically conjures up images of lovers passionately kissing and embracing each other in a dark room softly illuminated by candles, with romantic music playing in the background. However, foreplay can take on many forms outside of the bedroom. In fact foreplay can happen anytime and anywhere. It should not be limited to the bedroom and only serve as the … [Read more...]
Ladies, Is Your Inner Sex Kitten Still Present in Your Marriage?
I absolutely love the work that I am purposed to do as a Relationship Life Coach. In my last real talk roundtable discussion for women the topic of body image and finding your inner sex kitten came up. Below is an excerpt from the conversation and the recommendation I offered. Roundtable Participant: After having children my body looks and feels completely different. I … [Read more...]
GEEZ…My Mate Wants to Have Sex Again!!! How to Overcome Barriers to Intimacy
Some committed couples forget what it's like to be alone. As a result, they start to take both their partner and their relationship for granted. Over time, they become so accustomed to having a partner to come home to and share their life with that they forget what it feels like to come home to an empty house, sleep in an empty bed, prepare meals for one, or watch their … [Read more...]
Going to the Chapel? Hash Out These 3 Controversial Topics Before Jumping the Broom!
Couples often decide to get married because they have fallen head over heels in love with each other. They can no longer imagine their life without their best friend, confidant, and lover. The rose colored glasses through which they view their relationship lead them to believe that their marriage will play out like a fairy tale - you know, ride off into the sunset and live … [Read more...]
The Sobering Moment I Realized I Couldn’t Teach My Sons to Stand and Pee
Seven years ago my eldest son was nominated to be inducted into the National Beta Club. His school required that all nominees dress up for the induction ceremony. So I purchased him a new pair of black dress slacks, a white collared shirt, and a beautiful red silk necktie. Normally my son ironed his own clothes, but the proud mother in me wanted him to look extra sharp; so … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Restore Intimacy After a Life Changing Diagnosis
Couples often unconsciously sacrifice intimacy as they struggle with juggling careers, kids, and finances. The daily stress caused by these challenges slowly begins to decrease the passion, spontaneity, and romance in their relationships; which ultimately create small intimacy road blocks. If these road blocks go unchecked, over time, they turn into full blown intimacy … [Read more...]
First Time Mothers: The One Thing that Released Me from the Fear of Being a Parent
A fellow BMWK writer, friend, and soon to be first time dad posted a question on social media asking people to honestly share their fears about becoming first time parents. I started to respond to the post by listing all of the fears that had plagued me before becoming a parent. However, I decided against it. I didn’t want to scare the crap out of him with my paranoia and I … [Read more...]
Don’t Believe the Negative Hype: Marriage IS the New Black!!!
We are inundated daily with magazine articles, reality television, and social media news feed that show an endless barrage of negative images, stories, and statistics about marriage. All of these images seem to report that every marriage is doomed for one reason or another. One could easily begin to believe that their marriage will be plagued with money problems, unruly … [Read more...]
Are You Being the Gift that Your Mate Needs?
As a Relationship Coach, I’ve heard countless couples complain that romance and intimacy slowly but surely seems to just (poof) disappear in their relationship. When people fall in love and more importantly when they decide to commit to one another love and romance are at their peak. That euphoria leads people to believe that once they ride off into the sunset of commitment … [Read more...]
5 Things that All Married Couples Who Intend to Live Happily Ever After MUST Do!!!
Most couples enter marriage with a false sense of security. They believe that love will fill all of their empty spaces, erase negative emotions, make their mate telepathic, and protect them from hurt. Simply put, most couples enter marriage believing that love will conquer all. Most newlyweds are rendered temporarily blind by the euphoria of love and starting a new life … [Read more...]