I’ve heard it said that most people prepare more for their wedding than they do for their marriage. In my case, I’d have to say it was true. Weddings are usually exciting, fun-filled events that get everyone caught up—so much so that, often, we don’t take a minute to stop and think about what happens after the honeymoon. I got married at 23. I had just finished college the … [Read more...]
How to Heal from the Pain of Divorce and Learn to Love Again
2005 was the most painful year of my life. My daughter had just turned one when I found out that my husband—who I had been separated from for four months, with a faint hope of reconciliation—was about to have a baby by another woman. Words can't express how devastated I was at his admission of an affair during our marriage. I felt like I had fallen into a black hole and wasn't … [Read more...]
10 Things You Should Know About Marriage
You may have received a lot of advice from different people regarding marriage, whether you are single, engaged or already married. I didn’t receive a lot of advice before I got married. But I have received some wise nuggets from a few family members over that last 17 years of my marriage. I will share what I was told and some things I had to learn on my own. Keep God in … [Read more...]
4 Requirements from God for a Thriving Marriage
The first marriage ever recorded in the history of humankind is found in Genesis 2 with our parents, Adam and Eve. Since that marriage, hundreds of thousands of other men and women have followed in their footsteps. Those that have invented things that have changed the course of history will never be forgotten. From Konrad Zuse, inventor of the computer, Alexander Bell, … [Read more...]
3 Ways You Can Have a Ride Or Die Wife
All ride or die wives want a husband that will also be there through thick and thin. Wives want a husband that will be supportive and loving. A wife doesn’t have a problem with her husband taking his place as spiritual leader in the household if she knows who his spiritual leader is. So if husbands want a ride or die wife, below are some things they need to know. 1. You … [Read more...]
Will You Make a Vow to Love, Honor and Obey?
Are you making plans to get married soon? Have you decided if you are going to write your own vows or recite them from the minister or Justice of the Peace? No matter what you decide, consider incorporating these three vows: love, honor and obey. Love Love is a given, I mean why else would you marry each other right? But love is not just the fluttering you feel in your … [Read more...]
Why You Need to Focus on HIM in Your Relationships?
That’s right, it is all about HIM. It’s His needs you need to meet not yours. It is HIM that should be running your relationship, not you. I mean you are lucky and blessed to have HIM so you need to act that way and give HIM what He deserves. Far too long you have had your priorities out of order and then many of you wonder why your relationship isn’t where it needs to be. You … [Read more...]
Another Blended Family Love Story: How My Husband Became “Daddy”
Recently, I wrote an article about my Father before he became my Daddy, where I shared my experience growing up in a blended family home. Now, I am going to share my experience as a parent allowing my spouse to raise my child. My family knew my husband’s family from church many years before we got together. My sister teased me about my him becoming my husband even before we … [Read more...]
Can Love Really Survive Change?
We all know that marriage and relationships in general have their ups and downs. And it’s inevitable that both of you will go through some changes along the way. But what if those changes are so drastic that you feel like you caught a case of whiplash? What if one day you’re talking to your spouse and you’re seriously trying to figure out who you’re talking to, because they no … [Read more...]
Four Ways Your Marriage is a Ministry
Ministry: The act of serving, ministration. I don’t know if you realize it, but you do serve in your marriage, therefore it is a ministry. You may ask yourself how your marriage is a ministry if you and/or your spouse are not ministers. You don’t have to be. The fact that your marriage is an act of service makes it a ministry. The definition clearly states that ministry is the … [Read more...]
Marriage Ain’t No Punk
Marriage should be a lifestyle, not a casual relationship that can be terminated on a whim. Therefore it should not be entered into lightly or taken for granted. Once entered in, handle the marriage with care and remember why the decision was made to marry. This should be a careful decision because marriage ain’t no punk. Marriage is a covenant between you, God, and your … [Read more...]
25 Ways to Tell Your Husband, “I Love You!”
I'm always researching ways to enhance and enjoy my marriage. To some, this may not be a big deal. But for busy moms like myself, there are times that we barely have enough time for ourselves, let alone a moment or two to be a fulfilling and intentional wife. Disclaimer: I make no claims to be a relationship expert. This is a list that was created to inspire you, not cause … [Read more...]
You said, “I do!” Now do it! – How to Keep a Marriage Strong in Phase 3
Phase 1 Do you remember when you were dating and you would talk on the phone for hours? You went through that cute "No, YOU hang up...No,YOU hang up...No, YOU hang up" phase. You couldn't keep your eyes nor your hands off of each other and your address was cloud 9? Phase 2 Then, there was the phase two where you started learning more about each other. You revealed your … [Read more...]
Marriage, What Did You Expect?
By Edward Lee "Here's to the happy couple." That is how the toast began at a wedding I recently attended. At these words, all in the room raised their glass of sparkling cider or champagne, ready to clink glasses and stand in agreement with the proclamation being rendered for long lasting happiness to the bliss filled couple. But...then the words to follow caused people … [Read more...]
Two Husbands, One Fate: Where is Your Marriage Headed?
By Edward C. Lee A new year always gives us a chance to look at what's good and what needs some work in our marriage. Admittedly, I have a minor obsession about planning when it comes to my relationship. I am always asking and evaluating what I am doing today, in light of what I want my marriage to look like in 20 or 30 years. And more importantly I always need to know if … [Read more...]