I must admit I made several marriage mistakes as a new wife. It took me a minute to understand and appreciate this profound new role with my husband. So my relationship struggled just a bit. What I learned, as I began studying relationships and working with couples, is that I wasn’t the only wife who had this experience. In this article: Taking your husband for … [Read more...]
The Stinking Thinking That’s Destroying Your Relationship and How to Clean It Up!
Thoughts have power and control our actions, especially in our relationships. I’m sure we’ve all had negative thoughts about our spouses that later resulted in poor behavior. It happens. However, we must remember that we are in control of how we show up in our marriage. And yes, it begins with our thinking. Here are 5 ways of thinking that will hurt your marriage if you … [Read more...]
Why YOU Have to Define What a Happy Marriage Is
How do you know if the people in your life are happily married? Truthfully, you don’t. Anyone can put on a front like his or her marriage is perfect, when it’s actually in turmoil. Conversely, you can find yourself worried about a couple because maybe your friend confided in you months ago that they were having problems, and that couple can turn out to be in a great place … [Read more...]
How to Apologize to Your Spouse
Why is offering an apology so difficult? Most people take it and turn it into something ugly. An apology, to some, means our spouse now has something to use against us. We somehow feel it gives our partner the power in the relationship. What we think they’ll do with the power is still unknown. This, of course, explains why people are so stingy with apologies. In reality, … [Read more...]
3 Personal Beliefs that Could Be Harming Your Marriage
Did you know your personal values, ideals and goals significantly contribute to the behaviors you display in your relationship? Unfortunately not all of them are suitable for a marriage. We aren’t usually intentional or even mindful of the language, emotions and actions we use daily or where they originate. As one would assume, who we are, as an adult. is the aftereffect of how … [Read more...]
7 Questions to Answer Before You Celebrate Your Next Wedding Anniversary
This August my husband and I will celebrate 16 years of marriage. We’ve experienced ups and downs, similar to most other couples. But despite the challenges, our marriage is stronger than it has ever been. This is in part to a few things. Individually we’re improving. We’ve matured as a couple. The things we thought were such a big deal in the beginning aren’t worth … [Read more...]
5 Cures to Marriage Boredom
By a show of hands, how many of are experiencing some boredom within your marriage right now? Ok, don't fret, this one is for you! Keep reading. It's unrealistic to believe there won't ever be down times in your marriage. It happens to the best of us. There are moments where it appears as though nothing new or exciting is happening. It is usually the moment we start to … [Read more...]