Love is never the result of a fall as the popular phrase, “Falling in love”, suggests...however romantic it may sound to your ears or mine from decades of programming and social engineering via film, television, fairy-tales, and other influential images that leave long-lasting imprints that shape how we view and speak about love. Yes, I realize how bold a statement it is … [Read more...]
The One Main Reason Why I Stay with My Husband and it’s Not Love
Let me start off by saying that I have a lot more than one reason for staying with the man I married. Frankly, if we were together for just one reason, I think things would have fallen apart a long time ago. But when I look at our marriage and what it means to me, I am pretty clear about this; out of all the reasons I am happy to be with him, there is one reason that stands out … [Read more...]
5 Fool Proof Rules for a Healthy Argument with Your Spouse
My husband and I, along with the help of my mom, came up with 5 rules for a healthy argument with your partner. Know your partner's "conflict language". Thanks to author Gary Chapman, some of us are aware of our spouses love language. However, are you aware of how your partner effectively handles conflict? Maybe they need a moment alone to refrain from saying something … [Read more...]
Is Love Really Different from a Male Perspective?
Years ago, I started my very first blog page entitled, “love from a male perspective.” I had some ideas about love & relationships that I wanted to share that I thought might be relevant/beneficial to the discussion. At the time, I was so insecure and apprehensive about sharing my thoughts publicly that I chose not to use an actual photo of myself to maintain … [Read more...]
What Good Men Want: 3 Things That Don’t Require Sex
What is it that men really want? That is a question that ladies everywhere are searching to find an answer to or at least some sort of hint that will help them figure it out. Attempts to appeal to the interests of a significant other can be quite confusing and frustrating when you are not sure what it is that they want or need. Poor communication/miscommunication creates … [Read more...]
Singles: 5 Conversations That Help Distinguish Between Love and Infatuation
By Todd Ledbetter & Sislena Grocer Ledbetter, Ph.D. The two of you are adorned in your finest. The gown is exquisite. The cake, fabulous. The arrangements, perfect. Your guests have assembled to witness the joyous event. Most of them are bearing gifts. Your ring will be the second best gift you receive on your wedding day. The best and most important gift will be a … [Read more...]
The 6 Biggest Myths About Sex and Side-Chicks: A Different View
Just days ago, I read an article that focused on relationships, sex, and side chicks that I found quite disturbing to put it mildly. I read articles, posts, blogs, quotes, etc. on love and relationships all the time for personal and professional reasons. Some of them are very informative, insightful, and empowering. Others perpetuate certain damnable and damaging ideologies … [Read more...]
The Shocking Enemy Robbing You of a Great Sex Life
The product of a loving, healthy, and thriving marriage is a great sex life. Each of us have at least one love scene from a movie that inspires you to have a passionate love life with your spouse. Sex is God’s invention for couples to share in something they will share in with no other person. If someone asked you if a great sex life is a desire for you and your spouse, you … [Read more...]
Singles: 3 Reasons He Cheats, 3 Reasons She Stays
When the question, “Why do men cheat” is asked, there are various answers given. The answers run the gamut from plausible to laughable depending on whom the question is asked and how that person has been socialized, their worldview which shapes how they see the world and their place within it. It is a legitimate question asked by those who have suffered from the (forbidden) … [Read more...]
Men Want Respect and Women Want Love or is it Vice Versa?
In the previous article I shared the scripture Ephesians 5:33-Neverthless let each one of you in particular love his own wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband. From that I shared how even if we were unaware of it, women need love from their husbands whereas men need respect from their wives. I also shared what I and a few other women feel how our … [Read more...]
The Number One Thing a Married Couple Needs from Each Other, Part 1
Ephesians 5:33-Neverthless let each one of you in particular love his own wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband. That is an interesting scripture about marriage that is actually what spouses really need from each other. I’m not saying husbands don’t want love and wives don’t want respect, but it seems that the priority of two complement each other. … [Read more...]
7 Things that Matter Even More than Love
When it comes to building a lasting relationship, of course love matters—a lot. But is love the only thing that matters? I don’t see how it can be. It seems to me that love is just a piece of the puzzle. If you think you are going to build a relationship that stands the test of time on love and love alone, you’ve got another thing coming. It’s just not that simple. I’m sure … [Read more...]
Second Chances: Will My Cheating Man Be Faithful this Time?
Can a man change for the woman he claims to love? If a woman finds out her man is talking inappropriately to a coworker and she tells him to stop, but later catches him emailing the same woman, "I love you." He says he 'messed up.' He apologizes and says he doesn't want the other woman. She takes him back, only to find out months later that not only is he still talking to her, … [Read more...]
Beyond Sexy: Loving the Woman That Lies Within Her
When a woman enters a room, even quietly, men notice almost instinctively. It’s been this way since the very first woman, Eve, entered the world. No announcement is necessary. Her very presence is the kindest disruption of space and time, commanding the attention of men everywhere who love her. In awe, men watch as if their eyes have never beheld the beauty of a woman, one of … [Read more...]
Finding Mrs. Right: 6 Signs She May Be the One for You
We've previously discussed The 6 Signs You Have Found "Mr. Right", and now we will discuss the flip-side. There are a lot of good women in this world. Yet, it still isn't always easy to know when you have met the one you can truly spend your life with. You have to take your time to properly evaluate her and to discover if a true connection exist. You already know what you like … [Read more...]