Telling your mate how much you care is wonderful. However, it is even better when they can experience how much you care. You can show how much you care without ever opening your mouth. Let your actions do the talking. Go beyond cooking dinner, going to work, and paying the bills. Sure these things demonstrate you care, but I challenge you to step outside of the norm. Here … [Read more...]
15 Ways To Quickly Find Out If You or Your Spouse Are ‘About That Married Life’
I am one of those people who loves the feeling of being in love. I love the idea of it, the feeling of it, the heat of it. And I am blessed to be married to a man who makes me feel it often. I'm not gonna lie, it's not an every day feeling. But, it wouldn't be married life if it were. See, that's the thing. Married life is all at once amazing, full, frustrating, and … [Read more...]
Being Mary Jane’s Ugly Truth Episode Challenges Us to Stop Lying About Relationships
When we meet, date and even marry, we really don’t know everything about the person next to us. We are often oblivious to the challenges they’ve faced, the hardships they’ve overcome and the difficulties they endure on a daily basis. If we were honest, we frequently ignore the outward signs of their inward pain and shame and move on with our day. Last night’s episode of … [Read more...]
Your Man or Your Plan? Should Love Trump Career?
Should Love Trump Career? The answer to this question is yes. And no. Let me explain. You might be looking for me to give you a warm and fuzzy response like “follow your heart” or “love will make a way!” But I’m not going to give you that. You might be looking for me to give you an answer like “girl, get yo money! You don’t need a man.” I’m not going to give you … [Read more...]
Break-Ups: Massive Failure or Golden Opportunity and How You Can Make it Through
By: Saretha Pyant Break-ups suck!! There, I said it…it’s one of the most heart wrenching experiences one can endure because it’s a pain that heals only with time. In the midst of heartache comes depression which, depending on the length of the relationship and an individual's coping mechanism, can range from days to weeks to months. Related: After a bad break up, here are … [Read more...]
Singles: These 3 Powerful Relationship Tips from “Being Mary Jane” Will Change the Way You Think
With so much buzz surrounding the 3rd season of BET's Being Mary Jane, I decided to play catch up and binge watch previous episodes on Netflix. I was never a fan of the show, however, I figured I would give it another try. After my binge I am still not a fan, however there are a lot of lessons we can learn from this show. Here are the top 3 relationship tips we can learn … [Read more...]
Friend Zone or Love Jones: Can A Man and Woman Just Be Friends?
“I’m not ready for a serious relationship. I just want to be friends.” This is one of the worst lines that any man or woman can hear from the person that they had hoped to gain more than a "buddy pass" from. We have all been at both ends, being the orator of such words as well as the unfortunate recipient hearer of those same dreaded words. What exactly does it mean for a … [Read more...]
Should You Get Married If You Aren’t In Love?
I often hear people say they love someone but they are not in love with the person. Typically that means they’ve grown to care for someone deeply, but the romantic feelings that come with being in love have either faded, or they were never there to begin with. I love my husband and thankfully, I am in love with him too. With time, our love has grown, and I am grateful that … [Read more...]
Why Bad Boys Win Girls and Good Guys Only Friend Girls
"Bad boys aint no good Good boys aint no fun Lord knows that I should Run off with the right one..." -Mr. Wrong by Mary J. Blige When was the last time you heard a song that celebrated the virtues of a good man? That same representation is lacking in film, television, and all other forms of entertainment. Popular culture celebrates the "bad boy" while deriding the good … [Read more...]
Is Your Good Woman Getting Your Good Love?
For the last couple of weeks I have been highlighting the Wife of Noble Character in Proverbs 31. We’ve talked about how the modern day wife measures up and what’s the overall reward in being a good woman. Since I am reminding the women to be good to their men and families, I know it is equally important to address the husbands. Men, I have to ensure that all these good … [Read more...]
BMWK 7-Day Instagram “LOVE” Challenge!
Are you in loooove? Do you just love love? Well, here at BMWK, we're in love with black love. So we've come up with the coolest 7 Day Instagram Challenge. Starting today, and for the next 7 days, complete the challenge and tag us @blackandmarried. We'll post some of our favorites on Facebook! Here are your challenges: Day 1: Send a thoughtful text Day 2: Post a … [Read more...]
God, Why Am I Still Single?
It is the question that many single women ask, either mentally or while screaming into their pillows, after they witness yet another friend becoming engaged and they're still just trying to get a good look from a good man. God, why am I still single? In Christian circles, it's not uncommon to hear someone say, “maybe God has given you the call to celibacy.” Well, before … [Read more...]
Ready For Wife Life: 5 Things Your Future Husband Wished You Knew
When a man is ready for marriage, there are specific things he looks for in a woman before he decides to commit. Typically, he keeps the criteria for his ideal woman close to he vest. While this strategy works great for him, it can make dating and relationships frustrating and dealing with your man can feel confusing. But by embracing the following 5 secrets, you’ll be able … [Read more...]
I Love Her, But Why Does She Keep Pulling Away?
Does it seem that every time you start to get close she pulls away? You think maybe she is the one and then she goes into hibernation. It feels like she is purposely doing things to keep you at a distance. If this is happening, know she is not crazy but, she does have a past. Here are 3 reasons she may be pulling away even though she cares about you very much. Hear what she … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Find God’s Strength for Your Marriage When You Feel Hopeless
Guest Writer: Shawn Cook Marriage is one event that does not perform “as written” or “produced.” I believe the key task in the role of a spouse is not to always look to logic to answer all the questions that arise since each marriage is unique and fits no particular cast or mold in its entirety. Marriage is a dynamic, living, and breathing entity that requires true life … [Read more...]