I was recently asked why abandoning children is often done by men. As a man fully committed to the well-being of my family, I don't believe there's one single answer to why this happens. Still, I know for a fact that fear, if left unchecked, will send a man down a road of no return. Abandoning Children | Why Men Do It In this article: Abandonment Is a Reaction to Fear … [Read more...]
Would You Rather Be Wanted or Needed in a Relationship?
One of my followers on social media posed an interesting relationship question that she wanted me to answer along with other men who follow my posts on social media. She wanted to know what's on the minds of men. And in her inquiries, she asked a question that stood out to me: Is it better to be wanted or needed in a relationship? Although I answered the question some days … [Read more...]
Insight into the Mind of a Player. And, Ladies, You’ll Want to Hear This
The player persona is all a façade. Many men play this role because they are afraid they may not be accepted for who they really are. Of course, they would never tell you this. It's easier to create a persona that exudes confidence, masculinity and all those things popular culture has taught men to fake. His experiences also reinforce the decision to play this role. After … [Read more...]
It’s Not You, It’s Men: Bridging the Communication Gap Between Men and Women
On this week’s episode of It’s Not You, It’s Men, Rev Run and Tyrese tackled the topic: Lost in Translation- How men and women communicate differently. Evelyn Lozada and Vin Disel joined the conversation as they discussed ways to foster better communication in relationships. It is a known fact that men and women communicate differently, which often leads to challenges … [Read more...]
5 Best Places to Meet a Saved and Single Man in 2016
Okay, so lets be honest. The place to meet a good man, let alone a Godly man is becoming more and more challenging. On each of our trainings we do with singles, this is the biggest complaint we have. Where are all the good, saved, and single men at? As a male, I can reassure you they are out there you just need to be in the right place in order to be found by them. A … [Read more...]
3 Very Costly Relationship Mistakes that Singles Should Avoid
The tragedy of "new love" is that often it dies young, long before it reaches the "golden years." Too many couples rush into certain territories far too soon and negatively impact the direction and outcome of their relationships. We want to be strategic without being mechanical and free-flowing without being loose. Love is not a sprint. It's a long slow walk. There are … [Read more...]
Men: 6 Things About Sex, Marriage, and Dating You Would Know If You Thought Like Women
When it comes to relationships, some men often wonder what their wives or girlfriends think about, what they want, what they like, how they can please them, etc. etc. So, after hearing all that and listening to them complain that women are complicated and hard to understand, I began to wonder what men would know if they acted like men but thought like women. So I, along with … [Read more...]
Women: Stop Treating Your Man Like Another Piece Of Bling
Ok, so we're all a little selfish. Some of us more selfish than others. And, from this narcissistic position, we tend to see the world through our own worldview. We're all guilty of this. We're not capable of removing the lenses Men get married and tend to think that their new wives are their own personal sex kittens; and, by bestowing their last names upon these hopeful … [Read more...]
Singles: Don’t Ignore These Warning Flags that Let You Know it’s Time to Run
“I have a question. I have been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and we have been out on a date once. Dating is still relatively new to me. Already, I have found that he doesn't like when women tell him no. That bothers me. He becomes upset when I can't spend time with him because sometimes, I want to hang out with my sister, but he isn't close to his family like I … [Read more...]
What Good Men Want: 3 Things That Don’t Require Sex
What is it that men really want? That is a question that ladies everywhere are searching to find an answer to or at least some sort of hint that will help them figure it out. Attempts to appeal to the interests of a significant other can be quite confusing and frustrating when you are not sure what it is that they want or need. Poor communication/miscommunication creates … [Read more...]
The 6 Biggest Myths About Sex and Side-Chicks: A Different View
Just days ago, I read an article that focused on relationships, sex, and side chicks that I found quite disturbing to put it mildly. I read articles, posts, blogs, quotes, etc. on love and relationships all the time for personal and professional reasons. Some of them are very informative, insightful, and empowering. Others perpetuate certain damnable and damaging ideologies … [Read more...]
Single Ladies! 5 Questions to Ask Men that Want to Date You (from a Male Perspective)
Ladies don’t be afraid to ask questions of men that express an interest in dating you. Ideally, you shouldn’t have to ask all of the tough questions. When men approach, they should be forthright, properly presenting themselves which involves more than the introduction, “Hello, my name is …” Their introduction should include information about themselves that will allow you to … [Read more...]
15 Things a Man Should Do Once His Woman Goes Natural
When asking a woman what was the hardest part about returning back to her natural hair, I wasn't surprised to find out it was all about how her mate felt about the decision. If her man wasn't encouraging, this made her journey a bit stressful. The moment your lady decides she is returning back to her natural hair, you both begin to transition. Men, it will be up to you to … [Read more...]
The Truth about Why Your Wife Wants You to Go On Grown Man “Play-Dates”
Remember when Chris Rock did his bit in the “Never Scared” comedy special about how women always try to set their husbands up on “grown man play dates?” The audience roared with laughter as he went on about being stuck in a room with a man he didn’t know, simply because their wives said they both liked baseball. It's the kind of joke that was extra funny because so much of it … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Should Be Honest About When Dating
Some of us are guilty of an innocent lie or two. One that ladies are notorious for and will often admit to is the “it was on sale” lie when coming home with a shopping bag of freshly purchased items in tow. But there are some lies that can really cost you especially when it comes to your dating life. A recent article by Essence’s Kevin Carr reveals 10 things women should never … [Read more...]