Probably like many of you, I consume a lot of social media content. I watch a lot of videos and listen to a lot of podcasts. Recently, a video caught my attention that promised to tell the one and only reason why men cheat as told by a woman. Did it matter that a woman was uncovering this reason? I will admit, it did make it interesting to hear how women form ideas about … [Read more...]
6 Character Flaws That Should Make You Question if You Are with the Right Man
I think I get on my husband’s nerves sometimes. You know what else? He gets on mine, too. The truth is we are all flawed. There is no perfect person or perfect marriage. We all make mistakes, we all have bad habits, and we all have moments where we could (and should) do better. Yet, despite these realities, some flaws should never be ignored. I believe that a few annoying … [Read more...]
This Black Woman Refuses to Date Within Her Own Race; Here’s Why Part 2
In Part 1, I shared the backstory that led to the writing of this article. And here, I'd like to expound. Interracial dating is a very sensitive subject. Our emotions are uniquely tied to our personal experiences. With this in mind, let me be clear: This article is not about whether or not a black woman should date outside of her race. This article is intended to probe … [Read more...]
Ladies, Grow a Backbone; 5 Things a Woman Should Never Change for Her Man
I’d be lying if I told you I didn’t make compromises in my marriage. I find it hard to believe that any marriage can last without compromises. When you commit to spending the rest of your life with another person, doing what you can to manage differences is inevitable. For things to work, there has to be a mutual decision to meet halfway at times. But for me, meeting halfway … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Get Your Relationship in the Best Shape Ever!
Relationships, whether we are single or married, do not run on auto pilot. It takes work and intention to make our relationships fulfilling and long lasting. No one wants to be in a relationship that tends to run on routine and exists because two people are used to each other. Couples should look for things that will help them growing together in their relationship but also … [Read more...]
5 Often Overlooked Places to Find Mr. Right…or for Him to Find You!
The Good Book, says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord- Proverbs 18:22.” The thing I love about this verse is that there are no qualifiers—find a wife, get favor. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. The problem is, sometimes it feels like the brothers aren’t working hard enough to do the finding. So I put my thinking cap on and asked my … [Read more...]
Single Ladies, Are You Making These 4 Mistakes In Dating?
Ladies, dating can be tough. And you’re entitled to make your mistakes in the tricky world of dating. But if you’re making these common four mistakes, it’s best you correct them now. 1. Dating Out of Desperation Desperation is never pretty. It hinders good judgment. What causes acts of desperation in dating? A prior failed relationship is among the top reasons. Also among the … [Read more...]
5 Things to Do When Someone You Love Is in a Bad Relationship
It’s hard to watch the people we love suffer. We want what’s best for them, and when it seems like they are settling for less than that, we want to intervene. We do so from a place of love with the very best intentions, hoping that our words and actions will motivate our loved one to change. But typically, it doesn’t work out that way. They stay in the bad relationship for … [Read more...]
Dear God: Where’s My Baby?
Dek: With every pregnancy announcement—and trust me, there have been plenty—I found myself slipping further into depression and confusion…But I learned to live in the now. It’s funny. I’ve been trying to write this post for a while now. I was even disguising my feelings, by initially naming it: Dear God: Where’s My Next Blessing? However, I know God has called me to be a … [Read more...]
Avoiding Murky Situations: 5 Easy Steps that Will Keep You From Cheating on Your Girl
Here's the backstory. I just left the Kroger around the block from my apartment. It's currently 11:38pm. I went there to get some fruit and something to drink before sitting down to get some writing done tonight. As I walk into the store headed to the organic/natural section, this young lady is heading in my direction. She pauses for a moment and looks to her right at some … [Read more...]
Rocking Out with LaShawn and April Daniels of the Tamar & Vince Show
I recently had the pleasure of chatting it up with the always real, down-to-earth LaShawn and April Daniels, co-stars of the Tamar & Vince show. When I was new to the blogging scene, they were one of the first celebrity couples I interviewed here on this website. I immediately became a superfan and loved what they stood for. I adored how they showed the world that there … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 5 Poor Excuses to Go Back to Your Man and One Good Reason to Stay
Sometimes, good-bye is really just "see you later" (after I get over the anger you caused.) And at other times, it really is the final "farewell." Knowing when to part ways is a necessary part of the dating process in order to arrive at a healthy relationship with someone who shares the same values, qualities, and other foundational principles needed for compatibility. Here … [Read more...]
3 Keys to Talking to Your Spouse that Won’t End in a Fight
One of our biggest challenges in marriage is lack of communication. I would take it a step farther to say that it’s not always lack of communication, but the fact we are communicating differently. What is important to one spouse is not important to the other. Often, when we are trying to talk to each other about problems or difficulties, if we don’t find the same things … [Read more...]
It’s Not You, It’s Men: Rev. Run and Tyrese Give 7 Essential Tips for Marriage Success
On this week’s episode of "It’s Not You, It’s Men," Rev Run and Tyrese posed the question: "We’re Married, Now What?" People are excited about the idea of marriage, but they have no idea what marriage is all about. Forty-five percent of divorcees surveyed admitted they had unrealistic expectations of marriage. With the divorce rate at an all-time high, how can you have a … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Get the “More” You Deserve and Desire from Your Relationships
By: Niki Brown Have you ever noticed that your relationships seem to keep going through the same cycles? Perhaps you meet someone and it begins well, but ends with you being hurt, frustrated, or disappointed in the outcome. Perhaps you’ve had more than your share of drama-filled, chaotic, emotionally-draining relationships. You may have even wondered, Why do I keep … [Read more...]