Dear BMWK, Even though he would probably say otherwise, my husband rarely admits to being wrong. Even when he does admit to being wrong and apologize, it is always done in a way that makes me seem equally as wrong, meaning his wrong is only ever a result of mine. Because of this, usually at some point I will apologize either way just to keep the peace. The other day we … [Read more...]
Archives for August 2010
Miss Celie’s Blues: What We Can Learn From Fantasia Barrino
by Harriet Hairston Sista, you've been on my mind... So...Fantasia Barrino attempted suicide because she was being implicated in an affair with a married man whose wife had had enough. Adultery, no matter what form it rears its head in, is damaging to all parties involved. Fantasia attempts suicide and spends the night in the hospital with a tube down her throat. Her … [Read more...]
Is God Keeping You Single or Keeping You Together?
by Delano Squires Two articles last week discussed the role of religion in relationships and marriage, and I was intrigued by both because of their implications for people of faith and people in love. While not specifically referring to Christianity, given the religious demographics of the African American community, the general arc of both pieces, and my personal … [Read more...]
When Self-Reflection Pays Off
by Tara Pringle Jefferson I've been living in a constant state of stress since 2006. I freak out about everything and it seems like I can't make it through the day without getting overwhelmed. But it stops now. Life isn't meant to be super-stressful all the time. It's meant to be enjoyed and lived to the fullest. I love my kids and I love my husband and although … [Read more...]
Expert Tips & Nanny Myths
By Candi Wingate, President www.Nannies4Hire.com If you just read the headlines in American pop culture, you would get the wrong idea about nannies. With books and movies like The Nanny Diaries, lawsuits between celebrity couples and their nanny, or an affair between the nanny and the husband, you might want to run away from the idea of a nanny. The truth is, just like … [Read more...]
Chicago: You Saved Me Screening and Discussion Is Back Tomorrow For FREE
CHICAGO: Tomorrow (Thursday, August 19th) we're back for one day only! We're doing three FREE screenings as part of the ICE Theaters community day. For your free admission all you have to do is bring a school supply to donate. Listen out for more details on WYCA Rejoice 102.3 who will be joining us at the screening and the discussion on black relationships that will follow. … [Read more...]
The Hunted: “Married Men”
By Tiya Cunningham-Sumter When one goes hunting, it is planned and there is certain artillery needed. How you will get there is all mapped out as well as what will be hunted. And there is a purpose for the hunt. Currently, there are women who actively pursue married men. These women are using lust and seduction as their artillery and are definitely on the hunt for married … [Read more...]
How To Keep the Marriage Flame Burning
by Harriet Hairston For the past three or four weeks, I've been saturating my mind with principles from great men and women who were successful in every dimension of their lives. From Zig Ziglar to President Obama; Tyler Perry to Ghandi, I've learned that a principle is solid. It will work whether your intentions behind it are pure or not. However, there is one person … [Read more...]
Money Monday: Kmart Layaways And The Lessons Of Savings
by Dr. Charles Alonzo Peters I grew up in the Dark Ages - no internet, no ipods, no cell phones, and definitely no credit cards. I had heard about the Diners Club Card - but that was for really rich people. Then this thing called MasterCard came out. This too was for the well to do, the kind of people that ironically didn't need credit. This MasterCard wasn't like … [Read more...]
Don’t Mess With Mr. In-Between
by Harriet Hairston There's a silly little song I heard when I was a little girl that has been playing in my mind as of late: You've gotta accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative and latch on to the affirmative. Don't mess with Mr. In-Between. Mr. In-Between and I had a love thing going on that almost wrecked my marriage. Let me tell you what he and his twin … [Read more...]
Friends Of Your Marriage
by Eric Payne I recently had the pleasure of meeting the male mind behind Black And Married With Kids dot com, Mr. Lamar Tyler. During our lunchtime summit on all things Black, Married and Kids, he casually dropped a term that hit me like a bag of bricks: A Friend of Your Marriage. I didn't need any explanation from him to know exactly what he meant. There are times when … [Read more...]
Wedding Dress Codes (Should There Be One?)
by Tara Pringle Jefferson I get giddy whenever we get an wedding invitation in the mail. To me, it means a guaranteed date night, good music, good cake, a celebration of love and a reminder why I love being married. I also love that it forces me and my husband to pull out all the stops before we head out. We figure, these photos are going to be passed around the room … [Read more...]
AUDIO: Dr. Laura Drops The N-Bomb Like It’s Nobody’s Business
On Thursday Dr. Laura Schlessenger took the opportunity to tell America what she really thinks about the N-Word. An unsuspecting black caller wanted advice on what she should do about her white husband who laughs at racist and insensitive jokes around her when he's with his friends. Well Dr. Laura used this as an opportunity to go all Dave Chappelle on the black woman … [Read more...]
Are You Easy to Love?
By Tiya Cunningham-Sumter "And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works" (Hebrews 10:24 NKJV) A few weeks ago my husband said something to me that really struck a cord. He asked a simple request of me and I was very slow in taking action to meet that request. His perception was that I was only thinking of myself. As I thought more about it later, … [Read more...]
MyBrownBaby: We Need More Black Children’s Books On Borders’s Bookshelves NOW
Today I ran across a great post over at MyBrownBaby explaining why we need more black children's books in major retailers like Borders. The author of the post and creator of MyBrownBaby, Denene Millner breaks down what happened when she recently went to Borders. Check out this excerpt and follow the link to her site to find out how it all played out. My neighborhood Borders … [Read more...]