Few things are as uncomfortable for me as watching a woman, that I love, be someone that I know she’s not when her man is in the room. It bothers me to my core. And I know that when it comes to dating—particularly in the early dates—there is a tendency to put our best foot forward. I actually get that. But that’s not what I am talking about here. I am talking about those … [Read more...]
15 Signs You are Single-Handedly Sabotaging Your Marriage
Everyone always talks about how hard it is to build and sustain a healthy, happy relationship. And I agree. And no, it’s not all hard work. I have plenty of fun with my husband and I cherish all of those good times. But, I can definitely acknowledge that it’s not always fun and games. Sometimes it’s challenging as hell. But we all make decisions, every day, that can … [Read more...]
5 Things You Could be Doing with Your Money Other than Having a Pricey Wedding
Your wedding day is a BIG day. I get it. When I got married, over eight years ago, I wanted everything to be perfect. I dreamed about that day for years. And as someone who didn’t grow up knowing any happily married couples (and hardly any married couples to be honest), I was determined to make my wedding pretty magical. And it was. I don’t have a single complaint about … [Read more...]
Top 10 Things Women Love To Do On Valentine’s Day
[tps_header] Valentine’s Day is around the corner. For many, this day of love comes with some stress due to the uncertainty around gift ideas. It doesn’t have to be that way, though. Honestly, it shouldn’t be that way. Expressing yourself to the woman you love should come easily. February 14th shouldn’t be about how much you spend or how many gifts you buy. It should be a … [Read more...]
5 Signs That Your New Man Doesn’t Value Your Time
When it comes to our work, we can be so protective of our time. After all, time is money and we don’t want anyone messing with our money, right? I get it. I am about my business, too, and I hate having my time wasted. But the thing is, if women can be bosses when it comes to valuing our time in business, then why do so many of us allow men to waste our time when dating? … [Read more...]
3 Major Signs That the Man You’re Dating Just Isn’t Trustworthy
Trust is the cornerstone of any good relationship. If you don’t trust your man, it’s a major problem. When I decided to get married, I did it knowing that I truly trusted my man. And I mean “for real” trust, not that fake trust when you say you trust someone but you are still trying to scroll through his text messages kind of trust. I’ve honestly never had the time or energy … [Read more...]
Can Focusing on Your Looks Save Your Marriage?
I have heard time and time again that men and women tend to “let themselves go,” after getting married. Everyone has an opinion about why this happens and what it means to the quality of a marriage, and it’s really hard to determine how much it impacts a marriage. And the thing is, it can happen to the best of us. It creeps up without notice. I have to admit that I have … [Read more...]
Remember, Your Kids are Learning How to Love by Watching You
I have two kids and one on the way. If there is anything they have taught me, it’s how to be more mindful of how I behave and interact with others. Kids are always watching you. Even when you think they aren’t, they are. I believe it’s their way of trying to make us better people. Now don’t get me wrong; I don’t think you should change who you are because your kids are … [Read more...]
Time Does Not Heal All Wounds…You Have To
“Time Heals all Wounds,” has got to be one of the most annoying sayings ever as far as I’m concerned. I’m not quite sure when it started, but it’s just not true. Although its origins are probably well intentioned, it really does set people up for a lifetime of pain and unresolved issues. If you are married or in a serious relationship, there is a chance you’ve been hurt … [Read more...]
3 Signs That Your Marriage is Really Worth Fighting For
Marriage isn’t a requirement in our culture. People get married because they want to. Now of course we can debate whether or not folks are getting married for the right reasons, but whatever those reasons are, it is a personal choice. And for most of us, the decision to get married is not one taken likely. Some serious thought usually takes place before people decide to say, … [Read more...]
3 Things to Do If You Keep Attracting the Wrong Man
Finding the right person to build a life with isn’t always easy. Sure, some people luck out and meet the right person when they are young and without much drama, but for many, dating is stressful and choosing someone who’s a right fit is often hard. And for women who feel like every time they give this love thing a try they seem to end up with a loser, dating can feel like a … [Read more...]
3 Things You Should Never Ever Say to Your Husband
After 8 years of marriage and more than 20 years of friendship, my husband and I have had our share of ups and downs. We have a good thing going, but neither of us is perfect. We’ve each made mistakes, for sure. And what keeps us together and happy is not just how we manage things when mistakes occur, but It’s also how we treat each other at all times. I always knew that I … [Read more...]
3 Things Your Real Friends Want For Your Marriage that Your So-Called Friends Don’t
There is one thing all my friends have in common. They all want to see me win in life and they especially want to see me win in my marriage. They are rooting for my family. And they want this thing I have to last for a lifetime. Their desire to see my marriage last has nothing to do with how they feel about my husband either. Sure, some of them have known him for as long as … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Forgiveness in Your Marriage is a MUST
You’ve been in your relationship for years, and although you’ve made mistakes, you believe they are pretty minor compared to the devastating mistakes you’ve accepted from your spouse. Maybe she cheated on you. Maybe he squandered away a huge chunk of your savings. Or maybe, it’s a long list of smaller issues that have you realizing this relationship is not what you … [Read more...]
Step-Up Your Game: 7 Ways to be an Even Better Spouse in 2017
As we begin a new year, we are all, hopefully, looking for ways to improve our lives and ourselves in the coming year. For me, being a better spouse in the new year is a goal I would definitely like to achieve. By improving myself, I am able to improve my marriage and my overall quality of life. I am sure I am not the only one trying to be happier in the new … [Read more...]