To let go and let God is the only way to manage your past hurts and pains. It can fill your heart with joy, peace, and love so you can heal. In this article: A Prayer on How to Let Go and Let God Seeking Wholeness from God Start Healing with These Steps How to Let Go and Let God Help You Overcome the Pain and Hurt A Prayer on How to Let Go and Let … [Read more...]
Don’t Just Wait on the Lord: 7 Things Christian Singles Can Do While Praying for Marriage
As a Christian, waiting on God to answer prayers can be one of the hardest things in life. You know that He has your best interest at heart, but at the same time, He doesn’t always answer in the timeframe you would desire. Praying for your potential spouse and marriage is no different. At times, it can be harder because matters of the heart are at play. You want to be patient, … [Read more...]
The Biggest Problem with Being in the Over Thirty and Single Club
You probably think that I'm going to say that biggest problems with being over thirty and single are things like: your clock is ticking, there are not enough eligible men or women out there, or on-line dating is for the birds. But I'm not. You see, most of the things I just listed are opportunities and not problems. The biggest problem with being over thirty and single is … [Read more...]
Out with the Old: The Relationship Habits Singles Should Have Left in 2016
I know we’re barely mid-way through the winter season, but I’m already through with one pair of winter boots. Beaten and stained from the salt, they were not things that I wanted to hold on to anymore. Declaring "this is my last season for these," helped me think about other things I wanted to get rid of; what I wanted to leave behind as I go forward into 2017. "A time to get, … [Read more...]
Singles: Would You Rent a Bae for the Holiday?
Your whole family is meeting at your aunt's house for her annual Christmas Eve dinner. You're excited to catch up with family, joke with cousins you haven't seen in a whole year and, most of all, grub on all of your auntie's signature holiday dishes. But there's one thing that's concerning you...you're single this year...again! Tired of being bugged by pesky family members … [Read more...]
4 Types of People You Need on Your Team If You’re Going to Thrive and Survive Your Single Season
Over the weekend, I was blessed to visit Miami to co-host an event on purity and waiting 'til marriage with fellow blogger and minister Myrlande Desulme (iwaitedblog.com). It was a great event, but one of the things that stood out to me the most was the feedback. These ladies desired to have more gatherings and resources for women of God who are waiting and need … [Read more...]
Dating As a Christian: Do You Have to Be Worldly to Be Dateable?
If you're a single Christian woman, chances are you've been taught that you should wait on God to send you a mate. According to this teaching, waiting looks like going to church, volunteering, serving, giving, reading your Bible and praying for God to send your husband to you. You may have also been taught to avoid being "worldly" by dressing modestly, avoiding places where … [Read more...]
Singles: These 3 Things Are Paramount in Preparing Yourself for Your God-Given Spouse
We all say we are in search of real love. Many of us are praying for that real love, standing in faith that God will deliver a real love into our lives. However, if that kind of love came to you tomorrow, would you be ready to receive and maintain it? I thought about it. If I had to answer my own question, I'd honestly say no. As much as I’d like to have my real, true love … [Read more...]
Singles; How I Prepared Myself to Be a Wife—and You’ll Never Guess Who Helped
Often times marriage prep would require you to do some kind of soul searching or learning from your elders, who have been married for a long time. But I've come to find out that those are not the only ways. I had no idea that in just a short amount of time I’d be learning about marriage by living with my younger sister. I thought I had it figured out for the most part in … [Read more...]
What Does It Mean to Be “Good” in Singleness for a Christian Woman?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My boyfriend and I constantly argue and fight about what it means to be good in singleness. He believes that being good in singleness is about how he conducts himself in church and in the community. I disagree. We have sex on a regular basis, and he does not view this as being problematic. In his mind, he believes he is good in his singleness. Because … [Read more...]
Singles: 4 Reasons to Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone to Achieve Better Relationships
As scary as it might be for some of you, there are going to be moments in your single season when you’re going to have to get uncomfortable. Last year, I put a quote on my vision board about living outside of your comfort zone. It held me accountable to something that I knew deep down in my heart that I wanted and needed in order to become what God had created me to be, and … [Read more...]
It’s Not You, It’s Men: Tyrese and Rev. Run Tackle Sex Before Marriage
On the premiere episode of the new talk show, It’s Not You, It’s Men hosted by Tyrese Gibson and Rev Run, the topic of discussion was Sex & Sensibility - Should you have sex prior to marriage? In this very raw and uncensored format, the host, along with their guests, shared their thoughts on the subject. I would like to share mine as well. Let’s talk about sex: 3% of … [Read more...]
Singles: The One Thing You Should Be Looking for in a Potential Mate and It’s Not “Potential”
For the single who’s sincere about dating, courting, and marrying a suitable partner, the temptation to date someone who has “potential” comes up every now and then. For example, a potential partner is someone who may have 8 out of 10 things on your list of desired qualities in a mate. However, those last two traits may be vital. Related: 4 Annoying traits that could be … [Read more...]
Jesus Is Not Your Man: 3 Myths That Keep Christian Singles Stuck
"That's ok. Jesus is my spiritual husband." This sister's comments stopped the Bishop dead in his tracks. He had just finished teaching a series on marriage and I guess the single woman was feeling left out, so she made a statement that so many of us in the church have been taught through the years. However, the Bishop turned around and went back to the pulpit and said, … [Read more...]
3 Tips To Deal With The Emotional Roller Coaster of Dating
Are you ready to take a break from dating because you're tired of the emotional roller coaster? Let's face it. Dating and relationships are filled with ups and downs and twists and turns. It's a journey that is unpredictable because you can't always know for sure how it's going to end. Will you ever meet The One? What if your dream man turns out to be a nightmare? What if … [Read more...]