I’ve only been married 15 years so I don’t consider myself a pro at it, but I have learned some things that may help you in your marriage. Below is a short list I’ve compiled. I don’t always have to be right. Being wrong in an argument is a learning experience for me. It hurts sometime when I am wrong, but I had to learn that I won’t always be right. My husband does know … [Read more...]
Couples Spotlight: Jerome & Deborah Mills
I had the pleasure of speaking with Jerome and Deborah Mills, and I have to say that their love for each other is truly inspiring as I could feel it even through the phone. Deborah and Jerome were high school sweethearts — she was a cheerleader and he was a football player — and got married at the ages of nineteen and twenty. They have defied the odds by still being happily … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK: Is There Really a Such Thing as Privacy When it Comes to Marriage?
We recently received the following question/comment from one of our readers: “I read most of your articles you post. Your knowledge is very useful on a lot of different subject matters. I know a lot of married couples and one of the main issues I find hard to address or possibly answer is 'can privacy work in marriage without causing distrust?' I find this one of the #1 … [Read more...]
13 Ways I Promise to Love My Husband…More and More and More and More
As I started writing down my goals and aspirations that I wanted to focus on in the new year, I started reflecting on how I can become a better person -- a better wife, mother, daughter, sister & friend. Naturally, my first priority was figuring out new/better ways to show my husband some love. So I started writing and came up with this list. 1. Choose not to react I … [Read more...]
6 Ways I Improved My Life in 2012
When the clock struck midnight on January 1, 2012, I declared it a “New year, New me”. I knew that 2012 had to be different, better, more amazing than 2011. I went through an insurmountable amount of stress and anxiety when I was working for my last corporate job & made a decision to never go back to that. At the time, I had a lot of anger and resentment. I knew I needed to … [Read more...]
Interview: LaShawn & April Daniels From the Tamar & Vince Show Talk About the Reality of Marriage and the Latest Episode
There are a lot of reality shows on TV nowadays. If you ever had any doubts before, the Tamar and Vince show (sister of super star Toni Braxton & music mogul/executive) is definitely one to be added to the list. Because of the show, we’ve come to know and love Lashawn and April Daniels, the husband & wife sidekick duo who also happen to be best friends of Tamar & … [Read more...]
9 Things I Learned While My Husband Was Away
The day before Hurricane Sandy was scheduled to hit the East Coast, my husband left for what was supposed to be a two day business trip. But, ended up being...well...9 days. It was bad enough that he had to leave! But what made it even worse was that it coincided with what was rumored to be the worst storm to hit the East Coast in quite some time. Call me a wimp.... but I … [Read more...]
You said, “I do!” Now do it! – How to Keep a Marriage Strong in Phase 3
Phase 1 Do you remember when you were dating and you would talk on the phone for hours? You went through that cute "No, YOU hang up...No,YOU hang up...No, YOU hang up" phase. You couldn't keep your eyes nor your hands off of each other and your address was cloud 9? Phase 2 Then, there was the phase two where you started learning more about each other. You revealed your … [Read more...]
What Happens When a Man Finds Love?
One of the best things for a man to experience is being in love. I know that men have gotten a bad wrap for not wanting to be in committed relationships and also for being unfaithful in most of their relationships, but when a man finds love, he is never the same. Love has the ability to overtake him and thrust him into things he would not normally choose. He is normally … [Read more...]
How Do You Feel About Make-Up Sex?
For as long as I can remember, disagreements/arguments with my husband have always ended like this: Husband, thinking it's really over: "I'm sorry." Me, not really over what we were arguing about: "It's okay." Husband, giving me his bedroom eyes: "Come here." Me: "Um...no?" Not that I'm not from the "kiss and make up" persuasion, because I do feel better … [Read more...]
Time, Toothpaste And Teamwork: Three Tips For A Successful Marriage
by Amber Wright The other day I had a great conversation with a friend and colleague of mine. We always have a good time when we get the chance to sit and talk about love and life. Our conversation turned to marriage (as it always does) and unknowingly, she left me some great nuggets on marriage that were just too good to keep to myself! Here are three things you can … [Read more...]
I Love The Way My Marriage….
I love the way my marriage makes me feel secure. I have a husband who is calm, centered and free of drama. He's there, day in and day out and it gives me a rock to cling to when my world is a bit shaky. I love the way my marriage makes me feel grown. When I can sit with my husband and have a discussion about something that used to be a heated topic, I can attest to … [Read more...]
Money Monday: A Simplified Approach To Creating A Budget You Can Live With
Creating a budget doesn't have to be a complicated affair. Of course it may seem too involved, too time consuming, or worse, too restrictive"”limiting your ability to spend "freely." But implementing a budget is easier than you think. First off, I hate the word "budget." The term conjures up feelings of deprivation, constantly reminding us of the things we can't … [Read more...]
The Ingredients Of A Great Spouse
No one is perfect, right? So the idea of a great spouse may seem a bit unrealistic. However, it is a realistic goal to strive for. Just the effort alone will make a great impact on the relationship. If you are unsure where to begin, first take an honest assessment of who you are. Being truthful about your intentions and the different options you have in terms of … [Read more...]
What Comes First: Regular Sex Or A Husband Who Acts Right?
Now before you head straight to the comments section to each give me a "You tell 'em, girl!" or a "Women be tripping," hear me out for a minute. I've noticed that when our sex life is purring, our house is cleaner. We divide much more of the housework evenly. My husband kicks me out of the house so I can have "me time." I'm less frustrated and stressed. We don't bicker as … [Read more...]