Have you ever been so upset with your spouse you completely snapped without regard to who else was around? We’ve all been there. No one can get under our skin more than the ones we love most. It’s easy to get caught up in a heated moment. Unfortunately during a disagreement with tempers flaring, yelling and being hurtful sometimes come quite naturally. It never feels good … [Read more...]
12 of the Dumbest Fights Couples Can Have About Nothing
Slammed doors, raised voices and long disagreements that carry on for hours. Any of this sound familiar? Conflict is a natural and inevitable part of marriage. There’s simply no way to avoid an occasional disagreement when you co-exist with the same person every day. Conflict scenarios vary from really serious things, like not paying bills on time, to the pettiest of petty … [Read more...]
That Awkward Moment When Someone Flirts With Your Spouse
As a spouse we should feel safe and secure in our marriage. There should rarely be a moment where we experience thoughts of doubt or anxiety over whether or not our spouse is still attracted to us. After the birth of children, weight gain, loss and aging, it’s no wonder we sometimes feel threatened or unsure of where we stand with our partner. Unfortunately, today, it’s easier … [Read more...]
Revenge: Stop Trying to Pay Your Spouse Back
If you've read enough of my articles then you should know by now that I’m a BIG dog lover. I wanted to buy a blue pitbull named Danger and ended up with a Yorkie named Boots, but I love my dude nonetheless. So every now and then, I try learning more about dogs and why they do what they do. The other day I was wondering why dogs like to be pet and I came across this article. … [Read more...]
5 Conversations You Can’t Afford to Avoid When You’re Married
People always say that marriage is hard work, and it is, but what makes it harder is when couples avoid having difficult conversations. The reason for avoidance can vary. Anything, from discomfort to fear to a simple oversight, can lead a couple to miss out on a discussion that could very well make all the difference in the type of marriage they have. When couples avoid … [Read more...]
The “No Declarations Rule” Minimizes Resistance in My Marriage
One rule that Che and I follow in our marriage is the "No Declarations" Rule. On the surface it seems like its repressive and stifling, but the truth is, that it is one of the best rules we came up with. It forces us to be true partners and to communicate about all things, and especially those things that may have a profound impact on our marriage, household and future. When … [Read more...]
I Did It My Way: How to Compromise in Your Marriage
Sometimes marriage reminds me of being a kid. It's literally like you've gotta get permission for almost everything you do. I can remember being a kid trying to convince my moms to buy me a pair of Jordans for $140 (which in '88 was BANANAS for a pair of sneakers.) And now, I find myself doing the same as an adult! Whether it's still a pair of Jordans some 22 years later or a … [Read more...]
5 Things You Should NEVER EVER Do During an Argument
Whether married, single, young or old, disagreements are going to happen. No two people think exactly the same, we all know this. Yet it is still good free relationship advice. When differences of opinion and independent thinking lead to heated discussions and raised voices there are a few things that should NEVER enter the conversation. They only make things worse. Words … [Read more...]
Bad Attitudes are Contagious: How They Impact Your Marriage
by Amy Morin Emotions can actually be like a bad cold. Spend enough time with others, and you’re likely to catch whatever they have (or feel). It’s important to take a look at how this can impact your relationship. What the Research Says For decades researchers have been studying how our emotions rub off on others. What they’ve found is what a lot of people have already … [Read more...]
Conflict Resolution; 3 Reasons Why She May Be Nagging You
What is that crazy woman's problem? She just wants to nag nag nag... while all you hear is womp womp womp. I mean seriously, does she really think all of this talking is getting her anywhere? Ain't nobody got time for that. She needs to give you your peace and let you be. The world does not revolve around her but she always wants talk at all the wrong times (while you're trying … [Read more...]
Disagreements are Inevitable; 7 Tips on How to Fight Fair in Marriage
When you decide to marry someone, it doesn’t mean things are perfect. We all know that (or at least I hope you do). Anyone who's married can probably tell you that they’ve gotten into a fight or two (or three) with their spouse. I don’t see how you can spend the rest of your life with someone without the occasional disagreement/fight. Anger is a normal emotion, and trying … [Read more...]
Does Marriage Bring Out Problems? Become a Master Problem Solver
When two people get married it is one of the happiest days of their lives. House on a hill, white picket fence, and a rose bush in the front yard - this is a beautiful picture. But the question is what is going on inside that house. You must become a master problem solver. Marriage is like bringing together two foreign nations, each with its own set of rules and guidelines. … [Read more...]
Don’t Weaken Your Marriage Over Some B.S.
Yes, petty thoughts, actions and ideas can ruin a marriage. It may not always seem like a big deal while we're going through it, but over time the smallest things can actually cause the biggest challenges. Marriage requires everyday effort and we have to do our part by controlling our mouth, doing what leads to peace and eliminating that which does not. There are certain ideas … [Read more...]
Not Wrong or Right…..Just Different!
LIGHT BULB I figured it out! Yup, the other day I had an epiphany and I think this epiphany could change the world. Are you ready to find out what it is yet?? Okay well since you twisted my arm here it is….now listen closely. It’s not that men are wrong or women are right, the fact is that we’re just different! Yup yup! It took me all these years to figure out that many times … [Read more...]
7 Little Things That Can Turn Into BIG Problems in Your Marriage
Every marriage has challenges, and even the happiest couples get on each other’s nerves sometimes. What tends to strengthen a relationship and make it last is willingness, on both parts, to work through the challenges and find a solution that both parties can be at peace with. Sometimes, though, people don’t work through the challenges. In any relationship, it is pretty common … [Read more...]