So you’ve cheated? Does it mean your marriage is doomed for divorce? Absolutely not! And by the way, I'm speaking from experience! Now don’t get it twisted; it does mean it’s time to “Man-Up” meaning to “toughen up” or in my Spike Lee voice…“Do the right thing!” Tell your wife about your affair. Immediately, I’m reminded of the scripture 1 Corinthians 10:12, "If you think … [Read more...]
How to Forgive Yourself After Your Affair
Dealing with the guilt, shame and self-hatred or the flooding of negative emotions and feeling of self-worthlessness after the occurrence of an extra-marital or non-marital affair is no easy feat. I’m speaking from experience, and this cycle of self-shaming could be as hindering on the marriage/relationship as the affair itself. How to Forgive Yourself After Your … [Read more...]
The Only Way To Restore And Rejuvenate Your Marriage After An Affair
How to rebuild trust, you ask? We will tell you how to build that trust again and save your marriage here. In this article: How to Save Your Marriage That's Falling Apart Get Over Trust Issues by Starting at the Beginning The Biggest Struggle in Rebuilding Trust How Long Does It Take to Learn How to Get Over Being Cheated On? How to Rebuild Trust and Save … [Read more...]
30 Serious Consequences of Infidelity…Take Heed
Infidelity is by far one of the worst things that can transpire in marriage. Trust me, I know from personal experience! It violates everything built between you and your spouse in such a personal way. Majority of us who’ve been cheated on didn’t see it coming…I know I was blindsided for sure! “I am deeply aware of the disappointment and hurt that my infidelity … [Read more...]
A Right Way and A Wrong Way: How to Tell Your Spouse About Your Affair
There will never be a “perfect time” to confess your affair to your spouse. But there will always be a right way and wrong way in which to do it. And we're certainly not giving you these tips on how to confess so that you can go out and repeat the same mistakes again. And these tips are not going to get you off the hook either...you have some serious consequences to … [Read more...]
After the Affair; a Few Crucial Steps to Restore the Intimacy in Your Marriage After Infidelity Strikes
When you've been betrayed in your marriage, by infidelity, it's difficult to trust again. Another major obstacle is usually regaining the intimacy with your spouse. The attraction, physical connection and even self-confidence may all have been affected. For couples having this experience, there is hope. With time, communication and effort, you will love, trust and be … [Read more...]
3 Powerhouse Secrets to Surviving Infidelity
By: Da-Nay Macklin We live in a world of way too may secrets. You know what I mean…learn the 3 secrets to blah blah blah, discover the 5 secrets to blah blah blah, perform these 3 secrets to blah blah blah. However, your partner keeping their infidelity a secret is no small matter. Surviving that kind of betrayal is a tall order requiring us to dig way down deep. So, are … [Read more...]
Deal with Cheating in Your Marriage; Don’t Just “Move Past It”
Marriage isn't easy and I'm sure many of you know that. It takes a lot of effort to maintain a happy home where both parties are truly getting what they need from each other. In many cases, this harmony between a couple is not being achieved which opens the door to many things such as cheating. The day you find out that your partner has cheated on you can be extremely difficult … [Read more...]
My Husband Cheated; Should I Divorce or Stay?
Dear Dr. Buckingham I have been married 14 years. My husband recently cheated. We have been trying to work things out but I'm angry. He tried to find fault in me, to justify his affair. He admitted that, only after I beat myself up over and over trying to find out what I did to cause it. A part of me wants to just divorce him! What should I do? Help me heal! … [Read more...]