Imagine your colleague gets the promotion you have longed for or a friend meets the love of her life. You may try to put on a good front and say congratulations but deep down you feel jealous. We have all experienced feelings of envy at one time or the other. Some people turn to gossip, others feel depressed or a sense of lowered self-worth when this occurs. Often jealousy … [Read more...]
5 Surprising Signs That You’re Letting Yourself Go
As wives, we hear it all the time. Don’t let yourself go. We’re constantly fighting the battle against the frump and the baby fat. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose, but how often do we step back and think to ourselves that we might be fighting against the wrong thing? As someone who has been on both sides of that battle, I find that a raggedy outside is usually a … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Accept a Compliment Without Putting Yourself Down
Why is it so hard for us to accept compliments? Is this just a female thing or do guys have this issue too? I was listening in on a public conversation one day and I heard a lady get offered a compliment. She proceeded to come up with every self put down imaginable when someone simply told her that she looked nice on that day. She immediately responded with, "ya think? I … [Read more...]
How to Be the Woman He’ll Always Come Home To
Earlier this year I went away for a weekend to spend time with my girlfriends. It was amazing! We did all of the things women tend to do when they get together. We ate well, drank wine, laughed, cried and shared our hopes and dreams. My spirit was so refreshed and energized when I returned home. As a busy wife and mother with a thriving career, it was nice for me to just be … [Read more...]
9 Easy (and Mostly Free) Ways to Love on Yourself Today
So many of us look for others to show us the same love that we have yet to show ourselves. But how can someone love you more than you love yourself? I’ve learned that you will always attract to yourself who you are. So if you want to attract the right people into your life who will appreciate you, you’ve got to show yourself some appreciation. Here are a few easy ways to … [Read more...]
6 Reasons You’re Not Walking in Your God-given Shoes
If you’ve ever found yourself living the definition of insanity, having a hard time telling people no, allowing unhealthy relationships to block your blessings, struggling to reconcile your cultural heritage to the woman you want to become, or waiting on Prince Charming to come along and complete you, keep on reading. My sister and I have conquered our own personal and … [Read more...]
7 Things You Should Love About Yourself
What normally causes people to fall in love? Personality, a giving nature, support and encouragement are usually the characteristics that draw others right in. People don’t normally fall in love with just anyone. They’re selective. When we do fall in love, we’re easily able to pinpoint the reason. It takes time to build a love relationship with another person. Over time, as we … [Read more...]
Don’t Expect Someone to Give You What You Won’t Give Yourself
I know someone who is young and attractive and currently looking for “the one.” She dates a lot and ultimately becomes serious with some guy she’s met, but unfortunately “the one” hasn’t showed up yet. She wants her happily ever after, saying that she is hoping for this wonderful man who will treat her like a queen. There is just one problem; she doesn’t treat herself like a … [Read more...]
14 Ways I Promise to Love Myself in 2014
I recently received an e-mail that talked about the importance of the number seven, and it's use of over 700 times in the bible. It is the number of spiritual perfection and completion. I truly believe that anything you want in life, starts within you. Your belief, your mentality, your inner circle and anything that influences your thoughts and actions all play a role in how … [Read more...]
Attention All Mothers: 4 Tips on Taking Care of Yourself
This past weekend I had an opportunity to attend a retreat just for moms. The purpose of the retreat was to force moms to do something most of us rarely ever do: take time out for ourselves and make ourselves a priority. Some people may think they make themselves a priority, but they really don't. Can you think of ten things you love to do -- without the kids or spouse? When … [Read more...]
I Cannot Lose Weight for Him or Them
It has to be for me and on my terms. I CANNOT lose weight for him or them. This is very personal. I am actually surprised that I am sharing it. You know that a woman’s weight is one of those subjects that is just off limits unless you are talking to your close friend or your mother. And for many of us, this short list includes our husband. I can talk to my husband about … [Read more...]
How Do You Help Your Children Learn Love Their Brown Skin?
Recently Brandy revealed that she struggled to love her brown skin. Her thoughts echoed those of Kelly Rowland who also struggled to do the same. There are countless stories told by women who were once little girls struggling to love themselves. Despite being told that they were beautiful, most often by their parents, they struggled to see their beauty. Despite her … [Read more...]
Why Are Black Women Hurting Each Other?
If it was up to reality television, a lot of people of different races would probably think that black women couldn't get together without drink throwing, bottle chucking, and shoes coming off before someone's weave is snatched. We've debated that topic before. Many of us can accept that this is not our reality. We can get together and be civilized and not go through the … [Read more...]
10 Things Grown Women Shouldn’t Do – Part Two
Read 10 Things Grown Women Shouldn't Do - Part One here. #6 Stop getting overly frustrated when you are faced with things you can control and the things you can't. When I have a problem to solve, I feel anxious, even when the solution is fairly straightforward. And this must stop. And when I don't have the solution or I'm not the one who can solve the problem? I need to be … [Read more...]
10 Things Grown Women Shouldn’t Do – Part One
Read 10 Things Grown Women Shouldn't Do - Part Two here. I turned 26 a month or so ago. And now that I'm closer to 30 than I am to 20, I'm feeling some kind of way about the behaviors I exhibit and my reactions to every day events. Somehow I feel like I'm supposed to be wiser, calmer, more she's-got-her-life-together than I really am. Some days I wake up and I'm like, "Crap, … [Read more...]