What happens when your spouse has a storm brewing inside of him or her? How do you deal with the out of nowhere outbursts, punishing silent treatment, and hurtful words? How can you have a loving relationship when your spouse’s anger is running rampant? Is your only choice to grin and bear it or should you pack your bags and leave your angry spouse? We've got some answers to … [Read more...]
Relationships
The 7 Types of Marriage Rings in Every Successful Relationship
I recently wrote an article about rubber wedding rings after seeing an NFL player wearing one on HBO's show Hard Knocks. Apparently, the company which sells the wedding rings somehow discovered my article, contacted me, and offered to send me some rings. A couple of weeks later a package arrived. When I opened the package I was surprised to see they hadn't sent a couple. … [Read more...]
10 Reasons a Marriage Ministry Can Be as Effective as Marriage Counseling
Years ago when we moved to Atlanta, one of our first priorities was identifying a church home. We visited many churches during our search to make sure one main criterion was met. The church needed to have a strong marriage ministry which, in some ways, can be as effective as marriage counseling. We believed that marriage is a covenant between us and God. As a result, we … [Read more...]
Woman Warrior: 10 Ways You Should Fight for Your Marriage
Everybody knows marriage is difficult, particularly if you don't put the time and effort into building a strong foundation. It gets easier with time, but during the process of growing into mature, selfless spouses, marriage requires a will to fight for the union. Marriage is not for the weak-minded or soft-hearted. Marriage is for warriors. But being a woman warrior can be … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Make Your Spouse Happy
We've all heard it said that no one can make you happy. Or, in other words, we are responsible for our own happiness. So, if you're married, you don't need to make your spouse happy. But let's not front. At least for me, I know I'd be lying if I didn't expect my relationship with my husband to deliver the kind of happiness that makes me glad that I married him. If my … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Protect Your Husband…Because He Needs It Too
One of the things I value in my marriage and appreciate about my husband is the sense of security I feel. I feel safe. My husband not only loves and supports me, but he also protects me. He’ll defend my honor and come to my rescue whenever I need him. I feel safe. If you're anything like me, you also wonder what you can do to protect your husband. Usually, husbands step … [Read more...]
What Happens When You Start Treating Your Spouse as Your Enemy
I recently came to a revelation in my own life: I've been crossing the threshold of my home expecting to get into it with my wife. And although I have no tool of measurement to gauge how often this was occurring, I can say it was happening a lot. I was fearing aka expecting aka having faith in a negative outcome. I realized that this kind of behavior is what happens when you … [Read more...]
The Keys To A Winning Marriage: Do You Have What It Takes?
The NFL just crowned their 2019 champion, The New England Patriots. Likewise, the NBA and NCAA will begin the playoffs to find their respective champions. Whatever teams win, everyone will race to try and figure out their winning formula. Why? Because everyone wants to be a winner and the proof is often in the pudding. There is a recipe for success and those who truly wish to … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why You’re Still Waiting for Boaz
There are many women of faith that have gone in prayer and asked: "God where is my Boaz?" There are many churches that have preached to single women to continue waiting for Boaz. Yet despite all of your efforts, Boaz has not come, and frustration has taken his place. This can seem so unfair, but maybe there is a very good reason this blessing has been delayed. What could … [Read more...]
6 Things Every Woman Should Know When Dating a Man With Children
I "met" Deesha Phillywaw through her book Co-parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households After Divorce. I wish I read her work before I became a co-parent. While dating a man with children, I didn't take into account certain things thoroughly discussed in the chapters of the book. For instance, I wasn't used to being someone's second priority and having to … [Read more...]
5 Lessons for Black Marriages From Black History
I was inspired to write this post while reading the book, The Warmth of Other Suns, by Isabel Wilkerson. What an amazing book! Just a few pages into this 1,000 plus page moving account of the "Great" migration of African Americans from the South to every part of this country, and something has hit me. There are so many lessons for black marriages from black history. In fact, my … [Read more...]
Wake Up! 7 Signs He’s Stringing You Along
You have off-the-charts chemistry and he says he's never felt a connection like this with anyone else before. Maybe you've been dating for a while, but you don't know where you stand with him. Does he want something serious? Is he just moving slow? Or is he stringing you along? You should be excited that this super fine, successful man is pursuing you. So why do you feel uneasy … [Read more...]
18 Ways to Prevent Falling Out of Love
Falling in love is easy. It’s the staying in love part that is difficult. The emotions involved with falling in love can make you feel like you’re on top of the world. However, that giddy, heart-skipping-a-beat sort of love doesn’t last forever. Without taking steps to acquire a mature love, you can find yourself falling out of love just as easily as you fell in. 18 Ways to … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Win Every Disagreement in Your Marriage
When you have a disagreement in your marriage, you should have one goal and one goal only, to win! Yes, after the dust settles you should be able to feel like "this was a clear victory." I'm sure somebody has told you otherwise. Clearly, chalking up a "W" at the end of a disagreement with your spouse is not what your intent is supposed to be. After listening to our marriage … [Read more...]
Top 20 Gifts Men & Women Want for Valentine’s Day
Valentine's Day is right around the corner and the clock is ticking! If you are still wondering what to buy your significant other for Valentine's Day, look no further. We're here to help. Top 20 Gifts Men & Women Want for Valentine's Day In this article: What women want Men's choice Men and women agree on these What couples want We did an informal survey … [Read more...]