When the question, “Why do men cheat” is asked, there are various answers given. The answers run the gamut from plausible to laughable depending on whom the question is asked and how that person has been socialized, their worldview which shapes how they see the world and their place within it. It is a legitimate question asked by those who have suffered from the (forbidden) … [Read more...]
Second Chances: Will My Cheating Man Be Faithful this Time?
Can a man change for the woman he claims to love? If a woman finds out her man is talking inappropriately to a coworker and she tells him to stop, but later catches him emailing the same woman, "I love you." He says he 'messed up.' He apologizes and says he doesn't want the other woman. She takes him back, only to find out months later that not only is he still talking to her, … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Your Spouse Cheated on You
Infidelity. It has to be one of the toughest marital problems for any couple to discuss. Trust and honesty serve as the foundation of marriage. People enter their unions believing that they can trust the person they just made a life-long commitment to. When something like infidelity happens, it shakes the foundation that the marriage stands on. Once there is a crack in your … [Read more...]
Are You Teaching Your Partner How to Treat You?
If you’ve read many of my posts in the past, you know that I am big on self-care. I think we should all do things to nourish our minds, bodies and souls on a consistent basis, because without that, we begin to suffer. The suffering may not happen right away, but it comes with time. We all deserve more than that. When you hear the term self-care, you may think of things like; … [Read more...]
4 Things That Won’t Fix Your Relationship
Pay all of her bills. Give him a baby. Put a ring on it. What do all of these things have in common? They are among the popular ways that people try to fix a relationship—even when it’s obvious that it should end, or should never have begun. Another thing such relationship fixes have in common—they rarely, if ever, work. While such tactics might provide a temporary fix (for a … [Read more...]
Deal with Cheating in Your Marriage; Don’t Just “Move Past It”
Marriage isn't easy and I'm sure many of you know that. It takes a lot of effort to maintain a happy home where both parties are truly getting what they need from each other. In many cases, this harmony between a couple is not being achieved which opens the door to many things such as cheating. The day you find out that your partner has cheated on you can be extremely difficult … [Read more...]
5 Things You Need to Do if You Are Thinking About Cheating
Most people don’t enter a marriage with thoughts of cheating on their mind. I’m no fool, so I also know that some people go into the partnership with no intentions of being faithful. However, I do believe that the majority of people have good intentions and they want their union to last. However, none of us are Christ. And even with the best intentions, some people find … [Read more...]
My Husband Cheated; Should I Divorce or Stay?
Dear Dr. Buckingham I have been married 14 years. My husband recently cheated. We have been trying to work things out but I'm angry. He tried to find fault in me, to justify his affair. He admitted that, only after I beat myself up over and over trying to find out what I did to cause it. A part of me wants to just divorce him! What should I do? Help me heal! … [Read more...]
I Discovered My Husband Cheated Before Marriage; What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My name is AJ. I have been married to my husband for 2 years, we have been together for 8. I recently found out that he cheated on me with two different women during the time we were dating. He swears he did not cheat while we have been married. I'm devastated by this. I feel like our whole relationship and marriage is a sham. I want to work this out … [Read more...]
App Helps Trace Calls But Does it Send the Wrong Message to Your Spouse?
Curious about that number that keeps popping up on your spouse’s cell phone? Apparently, much like everything else you can think of, there’s an app for that. Privacy Star is marketed as a mobile security app that can assist you with your telemarketer woes but apparently is much more than that. It might help you find out what your spouse is up to. “With just two clicks, … [Read more...]
Women Cheat Too: 5 Steps to Helping Men Cope with an Affair
Utter shock, disbelief, confusion, fear and anger are simultaneously pulsing thru his veins. He’s then able to mutter the words, "I can't believe she did this to me!!!" He gets that empty feeling in the pit of his stomach, while feeling like the wind has just been knocked out of him. He has found out news that no man EVER wants to receive: his wife is having an affair. His … [Read more...]
Can True Forgiveness Occur After Infidelity?
Ask a man or woman if they would stay if their spouse ever cheated and most often their immediate response would be “no.” For many couples infidelity is a deal breaker. A breach in trust is easily seen as grounds to end things and move on. However, for some couples the decision to stay and work to repair trust is made. But what role does forgiveness play in all of this? Many … [Read more...]
10 Risks of Infidelity and How to Prevent It
Research from the American Psychological Association, the Journal of Family Psychology and Science Daily presents alarming and definitive evidence that the majority of married men will cheat on their wives. The rates of divorce are just as alarming. The research indicates that 30 – 60% of all married individuals will engage in infidelity; that nearly 50% of all marriages end in … [Read more...]
Must See TV! “Iyanla Fix My Life: My Cheating Husband!”
There's a lot of reality TV on the air these days. Only a few shows are truly geared toward helping us resolve issues and be better husbands, wives, children, friends and just be better people. One of the best programs currently tackling this issues is OWN's "Iyanla Fix My Life." Last Saturday's episode was entitled "My Cheating Husband!" This episode was so impactful and … [Read more...]
Could You Survive Infidelity?
"...For better or for worse...in sickness and in health...'til death us do part." Before that, I think it says something about loving, honoring and cherishing each other, right? So, if your spouse decides to break those vows and let's say...have an extra-marital affair, does that justify you to break yours too and leave? There are a lot of different religious stances on … [Read more...]