“I’m not ready for a serious relationship. I just want to be friends.” This is one of the worst lines that any man or woman can hear from the person that they had hoped to gain more than a "buddy pass" from. We have all been at both ends, being the orator of such words as well as the unfortunate recipient hearer of those same dreaded words. What exactly does it mean for a … [Read more...]
Seriously Awesome Deal: Free Bonus With Purchase of Best Selling Book “The Argument Free Marriage”
New York Times Best Selling Author Fawn Weaver has done it again! She has been traveling the U.S and Canada promoting her amazing new book, The Argument-Free Marriage: 28 Days to Creating the Marriage You've Always Wanted With the Spouse You Already Have. This New York Times best seller offers tried and true advice on achieving harmony in your marriage. Available online … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Support Your Spouse’s Dreams, Even If You Don’t Understand Their Vision
One of the key elements in our relationships, that we take for granted, is the ability to support each other’s dreams and goals. Being supportive of each other is often the foundation of how we build our lives together. I want to share three ways that you can can support your spouse as they execute toward their ambitious goals. 1. Encourage Them People outside of our close … [Read more...]
How Long Should I Wait to be Asked the Marriage Question?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I'm sort of at a crossroad with my current relationship. I'm a single woman in my late 30's and have one child who is an adult. He's recently living in L.A. where he is pursuing his music career. I was in a long-term relationship that lasted about 15yrs. About 3 years ago, I met a very nice and caring man who I believe that I can share the duration of my … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Find Strength When Your Spouse has Checked Out of Your Marriage
What is a husband or wife left to do when their spouse decides to walk away from the marriage? Whether it is a broken husband or desperate wife with tears in their eyes, the questions are the same - What can I do? “He just doesn’t want to be married anymore”. “She just wants to move on with her life”. There really are no magic wands to be waved or magic words to be … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Should Never Do to Their Men in Public
With more women becoming successful on their own terms, it’s easy to get caught up in the definition of Ne-Yo’s “Independent Woman” and forget how to be in a healthy relationship with a man. I grew up not really understanding the male ego or how to deal with it. Relationships were just not something we talked about in my home, so I had to make it up as I went. The problem … [Read more...]
Changing Our Perspective Can Change Our Relationship
Our view of the world is what we hold to be true. Unfortunately our perceived truths can cause us to be judgmental, jaded, and detached. Over the course of our lives; our perceived truths provide numerous opportunities for us to accumulate a shipyard filled with the carnage from a lifetime of wrecked relationships, friendships, and partnerships. Simply put, our perceptions … [Read more...]
The Only Tool You’ll Ever Need to Increase the Amount of Sex, Connection, and Happiness You Experience in Your Marriage
For a while, my husband and I were not on the same page. I felt that we did not go out enough. He felt that we went all of the time. I felt that we were not connecting enough. He agreed: he felt that the number of rolls in the hay could increase even though I was not talking about sex, I was referring to talking. I was tired of the fighting and realized that I did not want … [Read more...]
The Ideal Number of Bank Accounts a Married Couple Should Have
I attended a beautiful wedding ceremony a few weeks ago. He was Italian. She was Jamaican. This was his second marriage. This was her first. He had two children that he brought to the marriage. She, on the other hand, was looking forward to starting a family with him. The pastor candidly spoke about the complexities of having an interracial, intercultural, blended marriage. … [Read more...]
Top 4 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit and 3 Ways to Deal With It
Do you ever feel like you're dating a wishy washy man? One day you're in a relationship. The next day he isn't ready to commit. One day he loves you. The next day he wants to take it slow. Why won't he just seal the deal and commit? And what should you do when you find yourself in this situation? I want to take you into the mind of men and share how they think about … [Read more...]
‘Til Death (or Drama) Do Us Part
As newlyweds, I think it’s important for us to take it upon ourselves to put in the work to continue to build on the pre-marital counseling my wife and I decided to get. It’s important to us that we are constantly thinking of ways to continue to work on our marriage, even though it is fresh and new. That said, I was in a group that we attend with other married couples and one … [Read more...]
4 Reasons You Have a Great Career but Bad Relationships
Your degrees and your accomplishments might make you a good employee or entrepreneur, but it doesn't necessarily make you a good mate! YUP somebody lied to us and told us that if we have degrees and make a certain salary that it automatically qualifies you as a “good catch" for a potential husband or wife. The truth of the matter, though, is that some of the most accomplished … [Read more...]
Par for the Course: 3 Lessons from Golf to Help You Find the Woman for You
Along with being a relationship coach, I am an avid golfer among other things. If you know anyone who is dedicated to the game of golf, you know that we take the game seriously. We are deliberate about everything, from what kind of clubs we use (brand, loft, shaft, etc.) to what types of golf ball we put into play. Golf is such a meticulous sport, there is a science to every … [Read more...]
The 3 Worst Reasons to Get Married
A couple of weeks ago, I had a conversation with one of my young mentees who was sharing some of her frustrations with me. She had been dating her boyfriend for several years and was upset because, although she felt she was ready to get married, he wasn't. Mind you, he had given her a promise ring and had already stated that he intended to marry her—when he had his life in … [Read more...]
Should Husbands Object to Their Wives Wearing Bikinis?
I know a lot of ladies made up their minds that 2014 would be the year that they get their fitness game right. Instead of just talking, they committed to working out, eating healthily, and monitoring their stress levels to ensure that they could be svelte for the spring and summer. They created vision boards, maintained fitness journals and even enlisted the emotional support … [Read more...]