It’s always interesting to see how life operates in other parts of the world. Scientists and politicians always seem to weigh the questions: Would something that works there work here? And vice versa? What could we learn from these cultures and what could they learn from us? What would be the result if even part of these other aspects were incorporated into our culture? I … [Read more...]
Are You Doomed for Divorce? 9 Types of Marriage That Need Counseling ASAP!
Paula Abdul said it…Opposites Attract! Yet opposites attract, but only for so long. Many of us believe couples who are dissimilar are more likely to have a better marriage than those who are alike. I would beg to differ on this. The more diverse a couple’s wants, expectations and views are, the more likely they are to always irritate each other and argue constantly (studies … [Read more...]
Breaking News: Is the Modern Marriage Unbreakable? More Americans Believe It Is
In the current climate, there is no surprise Americans hold more favorable views on premarital sex, premarital cohabitation and having children out of wedlock than they did just a decade earlier. But perhaps what’s most surprising is that fewer Americans agree with divorce now than they did 10 years ago. According to a CDC and National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS) … [Read more...]
Here Are 5 Good Reasons to Stay in Your Marriage
Some things in life are worth fighting for, while others just aren’t. The decision about whether or not you should fight for something can be an easy one, but that usually isn’t the case. Usually, making that decision is tough. There’s often a lot to consider, and it can be hard to differentiate between what seems easiest and what’s actually best. So what do you do when the … [Read more...]
Should You Stay or Go? Is Giving Up on Your Marriage Ever a Reasonable Option?
I hate giving up. Something about walking away just feels unnatural. If something mattered enough for me to pursue, I have to hang in there. I have to give it all I’ve got. But does that mean I won’t ever give up? No, because I have walked away from things on occasion. I think there are times where, despite our very best efforts, walking away starts to feel like the … [Read more...]
Couples: Is It Okay to Stay Together Only Because of the Kids?
Marriage is designed to last a lifetime. Most enter their union with intentions to stay with the man or woman they love until death. But life happens and people change. People grow apart, heartache and pain find their way in, and the marriage you once thought would last forever, starts to fall apart. And sometimes it’s not some unexpected event that disrupts the peace within … [Read more...]
It’s Not You, It’s Men: Rev. Run and Tyrese Give 7 Essential Tips for Marriage Success
On this week’s episode of "It’s Not You, It’s Men," Rev Run and Tyrese posed the question: "We’re Married, Now What?" People are excited about the idea of marriage, but they have no idea what marriage is all about. Forty-five percent of divorcees surveyed admitted they had unrealistic expectations of marriage. With the divorce rate at an all-time high, how can you have a … [Read more...]
8 Proven Ways to Turn a Struggling Marriage Into a Strong One
Dear Dr. Buckingham, You provide great advice to people who are hurting and I thank God for you. Unfortunately, the devil is working very hard and is having a lot of success destroying marriages. My wife and I are having some problems, but are committed to working through our challenges. We are terrified of the potential of divorce. It hurts our hearts to see so many … [Read more...]
3 Actions You Must Take Before Giving Up on Your Marriage
Most of the articles I write on the topic of marriage deal with cultivation, nurturing, and protection of the relationship. Indeed, especially with marriage, an ounce of prevention is worth a ton of cure. Generally, good maintenance of your relationship is going to produce a healthy relationship with long lasting results. Unfortunately, some relationships are beyond the … [Read more...]
6 Steps to Break-up if Happily-Ever-After Seems Impossible
I HATE that I have to write about this unfortunate topic. For the record, I’m #TeamRelationships #TeamWorkItOut #TeamGetCounseling. Even in the worst cases of infidelity or irreconcilable differences, I’m always optimistic that a compromise can be reached. However, just because I’m #TeamRelationships, doesn’t mean that others are…specifically the ones in downward-spiraling … [Read more...]
10 Reasons to End Your Marriage That Are Simply Just Not Good Enough
By: CC Jean, LMSW Our society is all about instant gratification. We want it, and we want it now! Furthermore, when we get it, it better be on point. We are accustomed to entitlement and are quick to hold others accountable for causing us the slightest displeasure. This insistence on perpetual satisfaction might work for you at the Wal-Mart customer service desk, but … [Read more...]
Why Should I Get Married!? 13 Signs You Might Not Be Ready For Marriage
WARNING: Some of you may question getting married or why you ever got married once you read this! Often we find out the hard way that a lot that happens in a marriage is on the job training. However, there are still quite a few things that we can learn before we say” I do!” With marriage being such a paramount decision that affects so much of our lives, you would think … [Read more...]
2nd Wives Club – The Three #1 Reasons I Appreciate Being Wife #2
My husband was married once before. And he enjoyed a five year marriage with his first wife Geneisha. However, during their 2nd year of marriage, she was diagnosed with cancer. Three years later she won her battle and transitioned to be with our heavenly Father. In the early stages of our courtship, my husband struggled with what he thought others may think of him … [Read more...]
3 Pieces of Bad Relationship Advice People Always Share But You Should Never Take
Relationships often come with unexpected twists and turns. Sometimes they lead us in a direction that strengthens our relationship with very little effort on our part, but it’s not always that easy. The twists and turns can be complicated, leaving us feeling like we need an outside party to help guide the way. Frankly, there is nothing wrong with seeking help for your … [Read more...]
Can Sweatpants Lead to Divorce?
I love reading all the comments shared on my articles. Sometimes they generate a heated discussion with people who have opposing views. Other times, the conversation is healthy and leads to an interesting exchange of ideas. My last post, 5 Nightly Bedtime Routines Couples Should Eliminate ASAP, did just that. One reader questioned why Americans placed such a great deal of … [Read more...]