I love my husband. I’ve known him for 20 years and we’ve been married for over 8 years. We have two kids together and a third on the way. Our lives aren’t perfect, but we certainly love what we have built. We’ve been blessed. But can I tell you a secret? My love for him is not why we are together. Sure, loves plays a role. After all, I would never marry a man I didn’t … [Read more...]
5 Universal Relationship Deal Breakers…Get Out Now!
When we enter relationships, we all have our own personal deal breakers. And it makes sense, really, because we all have different needs and expectations. Some of us want children...while others don’t; Some insist on living in the city...while others refuse. I know having children was a deal breaker for me. I would not have been able to marry a man who didn’t want kids. Even … [Read more...]
3 Things to Do If You Keep Attracting the Wrong Man
Finding the right person to build a life with isn’t always easy. Sure, some people luck out and meet the right person when they are young and without much drama, but for many, dating is stressful and choosing someone who’s a right fit is often hard. And for women who feel like every time they give this love thing a try they seem to end up with a loser, dating can feel like a … [Read more...]
5 Things to Consider if You Keep Going Back to Him
My friend called me just to chat. Our chat soon turned into a conversation we’ve had far too many times: Should she stay with her man despite their most recent fight? I love her, but these conversations are frustrating and exhausting. And I mean for me. I can only imagine how she must feel. Listen, I understand the complexities of it all. She loves him. They have history. … [Read more...]
Ladies, 3 Character Flaws You Can’t Afford to Ignore When Choosing a Man
There is no perfect man or woman out there. If you are searching for the perfect one, go ahead and relax because you won’t ever find what you are looking for. But if you are looking for the right partner to spend a lifetime with, don’t give up. He’s out there. I am sure of it. I think we all have a match out there. Finding someone you love and are able to spend a lifetime … [Read more...]
Here’s the Real Reason Why Your Partner Doesn’t Treat You Well
One of the most important lessons we want our kids to know is that you teach people how to treat you. It sounds so simple, but it’s so true. The interactions we have during those first few dates is what sets the tone for what we will allow in our lives and what we have no interest in dealing with. And when we aren’t treated well in life, we tend to point all our fingers at … [Read more...]
A Woman Admits She Married for Security. But Is It Ever Okay to Settle for a Mate?
Most people marry for true love and companionship. Those are two of the main reasons I got married. But we all know that isn’t always the case. Some people get married even when the love isn’t there. Many get married because they feel like time isn’t on their side, and they are tired of waiting. Others do it because they want to start a family. And of course, there are … [Read more...]
Do You Need a Dating Detox?
I know this post isn’t for everyone because a lot of women are enjoying the status quo. But for those who aren’t, let’s talk. Ladies, some of you are DOING TOO MUCH when it comes to your relationships. I understand that you don’t want to be alone. I understand you want to spend time with a man and not your girlfriends. I understand it’s been a while since you’ve been on a … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Your Kids Need You to Do Better in Love
Romantic relationships are far more complicated than any child can ever truly understand. But the thing is, our kids are a lot smarter than most of us give them credit for. They may not understand the complexities of intimate relationships, but they are able to detect drama, negativity and unhappiness without us saying much. You see, our kids feed off of our energy. When … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 4 Top Complaints from Women Who Still Settle
By Judi Mason Please note: This article is not intended to be offensive. It is meant as a wakeup call. Please receive it in the loving concern in which it was sent. In my travels, I have encountered a number of women (too many actually) that have expressed pain, regret and discontentment regarding their relationships. Out of desperation, these women have done things in … [Read more...]
5 Signs that Maybe It’s Time to Break Up
As human beings, we tend to hold on to what’s familiar and comfortable, even when it is hurting us. We know it’s not the right thing to do, but we also know that it can often feel like the easiest thing to do. And unfortunately, we too often let easy trump what best in our lives. We always hear people say that relationships are hard work (I know I’ve said it many times … [Read more...]
Would You Date a Person You Wouldn’t Settle Down With?
Trying to find the right person can sometimes feel exhausting, especially if you are ready to settle down. But if you haven't met Mr. or Mrs. Right do you settle for Mr. or Mrs. Right Now? How many of us have dated someone that we knew we didn't have a future with for the sake of not being alone? "The ironic thing is, I made a vow at the beginning of the year not to date … [Read more...]
Don't Settle for a Mediocre Marriage
In the beginning of any relationship there is excitement, energy and effort. The primary goal focuses on impressing the other person. We usually say and do all the right things in order to maintain the original attraction. Then a few months down the line we get comfortable and our true colors are eventually revealed. We are no longer as concerned about saying and doing the … [Read more...]