Many singles are frustrated with their single status. Most don’t understand why they aren’t either meeting the right caliber of people or their relationships aren’t lasting for a longer period of time. Sound familiar? If this sounds like you, then perhaps it's time for a little introspection. Here are eight reasons why you might still be single: 1) … [Read more...]
Why Do So Many Men Choose To Be Single? PART II
In part one, we looked at the reasons why good men are single and examined reasons that were not particularly of a man's own choosing. In part two, I want to take a look at some reasons why men choose to be single for extended periods of time—and sometimes indefinitely. In response to part one of this article, I received some reader comments. One comment seemed to represent … [Read more...]
What Does It Mean to Be “Good” in Singleness for a Christian Woman?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My boyfriend and I constantly argue and fight about what it means to be good in singleness. He believes that being good in singleness is about how he conducts himself in church and in the community. I disagree. We have sex on a regular basis, and he does not view this as being problematic. In his mind, he believes he is good in his singleness. Because … [Read more...]
2 Myths Christian Singles Must Stop Believing About Relationships
There are certain well-established myths that Christians have overtime embraced as expectations for marriage. A myth is anything that is an idea that is WIDELY held, but false. Unfortunately, some of these dubious beliefs surround the Christian approach to relationships. If you’re a single Christian with desires to find your future spouse, you have to have the right mindset … [Read more...]
Singles: Have You Prayed this Prayer?
Being a Christian in today’s world is very much a challenge, especially with all of the pressures from society and the temptations that arise from the fleshly-desires awakened within us. Now combine being a Christian and being single; it makes things even more challenging, right? As a single Christian, it can get pretty discouraging at times when you have a standard for the … [Read more...]
Scientists Give Us The Most Shocking Reason to Stay Celibate Before Marriage
By Lisa D. Daniels Residue - something that remains after a part is removed, disposed of, or used; remainder; rest; remnant. –Dictionary.com I was recently having a conversation with a guy friend, whom I have known for many years. And the subject of sex before marriage arose. I shared with him that I have been celibate for the past seven years and am committed to remain so … [Read more...]
It’s Not You, It’s Men: Rev. Run and Tyrese Give 7 Essential Tips for Marriage Success
On this week’s episode of "It’s Not You, It’s Men," Rev Run and Tyrese posed the question: "We’re Married, Now What?" People are excited about the idea of marriage, but they have no idea what marriage is all about. Forty-five percent of divorcees surveyed admitted they had unrealistic expectations of marriage. With the divorce rate at an all-time high, how can you have a … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Your Single Season is the Most Important Season of Your Life
Yes, I know. Being single can get pretty frustrating, especially when it seems like everyone around you is "Booed" up with someone. But, marriage is one of the most impactful decisions you make in your lifetime. And, even before marriage, there comes the process of actually dating someone. So, even who you choose to date has an impact on your life. Basically, … [Read more...]
5 Best Places to Meet a Saved and Single Man in 2016
Okay, so lets be honest. The place to meet a good man, let alone a Godly man is becoming more and more challenging. On each of our trainings we do with singles, this is the biggest complaint we have. Where are all the good, saved, and single men at? As a male, I can reassure you they are out there you just need to be in the right place in order to be found by them. A … [Read more...]
Singles: Here Are the Top 5 Advantages of Flying Solo for the Holidays
Some people think being single during the holidays is depressing. Many may feel lonely or left out because they don’t have a significant other at their side. Well I am here to tell you that just because you are single does not mean you are at a disadvantage. In fact, you have the advantage of being unattached during the holidays. I’ve listed my top 5 advantages … [Read more...]
10 Things Your Future Wife Wishes You’d Do Before You Even Think About Being a Husband
By: Michelby “Coco” Whitehead As we fall into autumn, a lot of women are making it their business to find Mr. Right. This year, ladies attended all the Tony Gaskins events, read the Steve Harvey book four more times, and even took cooking classes to prepare for the husband hunt! Certainly, a woman who is preparing herself to be a great spouse deserves a man who has … [Read more...]
Ladies: 5 Ways to Tell If You’re Being Hunted or Pursued
Ladies: "Men are hunters." We've all heard this, right? It’s an old familiar saying and one that is accepted by most of us. It bolsters a sense of valor in men while at the same times gives women, who have become weary, a reason to be a little more patient while awaiting their “discovery” by the proverbial “hunter”. When ladies take matters into their own hands, they are … [Read more...]
9 Things Single Christians Wish You Knew About Love, Sex, and Dating
By: Chevonne Harris - Jet Finding love ain’t no crystal stair. In fact, for many of us, it’s a stack of cracked milk crates leading to late nights at the office, Saturday night twist set tutorials and the always heartwarming text, “wat r u wearing?” Naturally, you would think with God on our side, finding “bae” would be pretty simple, but dating while Christian often … [Read more...]
Am I Dating a Frog? 4 Qualities That Let You Know if Your Prince Charming is Marriage Material
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a single woman who was ready to give up on dating and marriage. With all the game-playing going on these days, I was going to throw in the towel. I could not tell who was real and serious from who was not. Recently, I met this nice professional guy and we have been dating for 7 months. Things are getting kind of serious and I think that he might be … [Read more...]
Being Mary Jane’s Ugly Truth Episode Challenges Us to Stop Lying About Relationships
When we meet, date and even marry, we really don’t know everything about the person next to us. We are often oblivious to the challenges they’ve faced, the hardships they’ve overcome and the difficulties they endure on a daily basis. If we were honest, we frequently ignore the outward signs of their inward pain and shame and move on with our day. Last night’s episode of … [Read more...]