Physical attraction is the most immediately accessible form of attraction. When you first encounter someone, their physical appearance is all that's available for consideration without having any formal or informal interaction with them. Most often, if there is no physical attraction, there is little opportunity for any connection to take place. There is no urge for a man to … [Read more...]
Friend Zone or Love Jones: Can A Man and Woman Just Be Friends?
“I’m not ready for a serious relationship. I just want to be friends.” This is one of the worst lines that any man or woman can hear from the person that they had hoped to gain more than a "buddy pass" from. We have all been at both ends, being the orator of such words as well as the unfortunate recipient hearer of those same dreaded words. What exactly does it mean for a … [Read more...]
Age Ain’t Nothing But a Number: Should I Date a Younger Man?
Is age really just a number or is age a number that corresponds to a value that the number represents? “Just a number” suggests that the amount expressed by the relative number is insignificant. In other words, “A number is a number.” No one really believes that. If anyone believed that, various salaries for a job offer by a potential employer would mean nothing. $50,000, … [Read more...]
Why Bad Boys Win Girls and Good Guys Only Friend Girls
"Bad boys aint no good Good boys aint no fun Lord knows that I should Run off with the right one..." -Mr. Wrong by Mary J. Blige When was the last time you heard a song that celebrated the virtues of a good man? That same representation is lacking in film, television, and all other forms of entertainment. Popular culture celebrates the "bad boy" while deriding the good … [Read more...]
3 Startling Reasons He Cheats and Why He Refuses To Stop
First, let me give a very important disclaimer. I do not support cheating by any man for any reason. It is the highest order of treason as well as an act of cowardice and selfishness. It is also a clear indication that a male is misguided in his understanding of the role that manhood requires of him when he chooses to pursue a relationship with another woman. The following … [Read more...]
5 Dating Mistakes Every Woman Should Avoid
We all make dating mistakes. However, through the following list, women can learn to avoid some critical ones to prevent unnecessary heart-ache. 1. Questions Dating is an interview coupled with an outing. We're used to interviews as they relate to a job. You are in an office and asked a series of questions to determine your qualifications for employment. We don't … [Read more...]
Are “Good Men” The Exception and “Bad Boys” The Rule?
"Good men are not the exception. They are simply the other choice." A year ago, I posted the above quote on my Facebook page as a result of a particular framing of questions that overwhelm social media and even have found their way into my private space through female friends. I'm sure you've seen if not asked the following questions yourself: "Why do men cheat?", "Why is … [Read more...]
Daughters Want A Man Like Their Father, but Is Daddy The Perfect Model For A Husband?
It’s admirable for any daughter to want a man “Just like her daddy.” If she had a great relationship with her father, why wouldn’t she want a man like him? Who would argue with her desire? Father-figure The role of a father in the life of a daughter (or son) cannot be overstated. That’s not to discount the role of a mother by any means. Momma always has a special place in … [Read more...]
Why I Think Falling in Love Doesn’t Exist
Love is never the result of a fall as the popular phrase, “Falling in love”, suggests...however romantic it may sound to your ears or mine from decades of programming and social engineering via film, television, fairy-tales, and other influential images that leave long-lasting imprints that shape how we view and speak about love. Yes, I realize how bold a statement it is … [Read more...]
Singles: Don’t Ignore These Warning Flags that Let You Know it’s Time to Run
“I have a question. I have been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and we have been out on a date once. Dating is still relatively new to me. Already, I have found that he doesn't like when women tell him no. That bothers me. He becomes upset when I can't spend time with him because sometimes, I want to hang out with my sister, but he isn't close to his family like I … [Read more...]
Is Love Really Different from a Male Perspective?
Years ago, I started my very first blog page entitled, “love from a male perspective.” I had some ideas about love & relationships that I wanted to share that I thought might be relevant/beneficial to the discussion. At the time, I was so insecure and apprehensive about sharing my thoughts publicly that I chose not to use an actual photo of myself to maintain … [Read more...]
What Good Men Want: 3 Things That Don’t Require Sex
What is it that men really want? That is a question that ladies everywhere are searching to find an answer to or at least some sort of hint that will help them figure it out. Attempts to appeal to the interests of a significant other can be quite confusing and frustrating when you are not sure what it is that they want or need. Poor communication/miscommunication creates … [Read more...]
The 6 Biggest Myths About Sex and Side-Chicks: A Different View
Just days ago, I read an article that focused on relationships, sex, and side chicks that I found quite disturbing to put it mildly. I read articles, posts, blogs, quotes, etc. on love and relationships all the time for personal and professional reasons. Some of them are very informative, insightful, and empowering. Others perpetuate certain damnable and damaging ideologies … [Read more...]
Singles: 3 Reasons He Cheats, 3 Reasons She Stays
When the question, “Why do men cheat” is asked, there are various answers given. The answers run the gamut from plausible to laughable depending on whom the question is asked and how that person has been socialized, their worldview which shapes how they see the world and their place within it. It is a legitimate question asked by those who have suffered from the (forbidden) … [Read more...]
Single Ladies! 5 Questions to Ask Men that Want to Date You (from a Male Perspective)
Ladies don’t be afraid to ask questions of men that express an interest in dating you. Ideally, you shouldn’t have to ask all of the tough questions. When men approach, they should be forthright, properly presenting themselves which involves more than the introduction, “Hello, my name is …” Their introduction should include information about themselves that will allow you to … [Read more...]