The advice in the title of this piece is almost always easier said than done. The consequences of the first are so much sweeter than the second, no matter how much territory, money or reputation stands to be earned in the process. There comes that occasional point in time during marriage when neither husband nor wife sees eye to eye on much. Tensions are running high at work … [Read more...]
Are All of Our Responsibilities As A Spouse Realistic?
We've previously talked about roles in marriage and each part a spouse should play. This topic has appeared in articles here as well as during the awesome Wednesday night #MarriageChats. Whether it's handling the finances or doing the laundry, the general consensus was for each partner to do what they are absolutely best at doing. In addition to having roles in the home, there … [Read more...]
The Legacy of Steve Jobs, The Legacy of Your Marriage
As everyone knows by now, America lost a giant and sheer icon of American genius and innovation when Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, co-founder of Pixar and the "father" of the personal computer, passed away last month. Since his death the world has gained a sense of clarity about the life and legacy of Jobs - even beyond Apple and Pixar. What has been the most insightful … [Read more...]
What’s So Great About Your Spouse And Have You Told Him/Her Lately?
I always find it amazing how well my husband knows me. I mean he knows me, knows me. It's almost eerie. He knows me below the surface. I can't fool him, not that I would want to, but I know I would be unable to. Just the other day I was complaining about something and I mentioned why I was complaining and he knew it wasn't the real reason. He told me exactly what I was thinking … [Read more...]
Having Problems? Give Your Marriage A S.E.C (Sex, Excitement and Communication)
By Charli Penn-Watkins (manwifeanddog.com) Every Wednesday night I participate in the best free counseling on the planet "“ better known as Black and Married With Kids' Marriage Chat Twitter party (#marriagechat). Last night's topic was improving your marriage "“ one of my favorites. My husband and I are always up for learning how to love each other better and stay committed … [Read more...]
You Say You Want Joy And Peace In Your Relationship, But Do You Really?
If you do, that's great! But here's the secret: your mouth can't be the only part of you wishing for joy and peace. Your actions have to also be in alignment. I often wonder if people really know how to be happy. I've sat (not-so-quietly) by as I listened to friends sabotage their own relationships from the very start. It seemed as though their expectation was to be unhappy. … [Read more...]
How An Argument Brought Me Closer To My Husband
by Amber Wright (www.theyeyodiaries.com) My husband and I had a huge fight recently. Huge. It was one of those cyclical arguments where the point got lost after the first ten minutes, and the other fifty minutes were rounds of jabs, stabs, and cuts (with words, of course). Needless to say, it was ugly! There was no resolution to the argument that night. Sorry, folks. We … [Read more...]
Appreciate The Role Your Partner Plays In Your Life
Like many (most?) working moms, there have been a couple times in our marriage where I felt like my husband wasn't pulling his weight and it was taking a toll on our relationship. My husband had unfortunately reached the point where he stopped listening, because night after night it was the same conversation about what he didn't do, as opposed to all the ways he contributed … [Read more...]
Breaking News: Our Marriage Is Not Perfect (Her View)
Aisha Greene, one-half of the blogging team at HartlynKids.com, shares her thoughts on the "perfection perception" that comes along with being part of a happily married couple. Check out her husband's views here. by Aisha Greene (www.hartlynkids.blogspot.com) On July 16, 2006, I married a man who is smart, funny, socially conscious and sexy (if I do say so myself). What … [Read more...]
The Blessing Of Marital Sex, Part 2
By Rev. Tacuma S. Johnson and Dr. Michelle T. Johnson Dr. Michelle Johnson writes: In Part One of "Let's Talk about More than Sin and Hell: Promoting the Blessing of Marital Sex," I said that God blesses marital sex, unlike premarital sex. Therefore, not only should we talk about the sin of premarital sex, but we should also talk about the blessing of marital sex. After the … [Read more...]
We’re Being Watched: The Myth Of The Perfect Couple (His View)
by Hayden Greene (https://nekkidmaninsuit.blogspot.com) I love my wife and she loves me. When we go out into the public, that fact is pretty obvious. Also, because we have a similar sense of humor, we seems to enjoy each other's company. My wife is pretty independent in the same way that I am so we also don't have to be stuck up under each other at events either. Generally, … [Read more...]
Be A Cheerleader In Your Marriage
I remember the feel of the sheets at the W Hotel where I sat at the end of the queen size bed. It was sunrise and I was sitting at the end of the bed staring out of the floor-to-ceiling windows at the clouds hanging above the Atlanta skyline. I couldn't move anything except my hands, which were moving back and forth across the sheets. The night before my flight from New York … [Read more...]
What It Means To Be A Young Black Wife
by Briana Myricks (www.20andengaged.com) On May 20, 2011, I defied a few odds. After three years of teenage dating, ten months of cohabiting, and six months of engagement, I married my high school sweetheart. At the age of 20, I went from girlfriend, to fiancé, to wife. I did this with a high school diploma, no baby, and a guy who's the same age and race as me: 20 and … [Read more...]
Four Lessons Learned From My Parents’ 27-Year Marriage
Yesterday, my parents celebrated their 27th wedding anniversary (only reason I can remember the number is I add "+1" to my age. LOL). In all the hustle and bustle of my day to day life, I completely forgot. Oops. But even when I miss the actual date, I will never forget the marriage lessons they've passed on to me, whether they knew it or not. I use some of … [Read more...]
Are You In An Insecure Relationship?
I've been writing for BMWK for about a year and a half but, ironically, every article I wrote was as a single man. My last relationship ended two years ago, so much of what I've written, and read, about relationships wasn't being applied in my day-to-day life. My relationship status has recently changed, however, and I'm learning more than ever that concepts that sound good in … [Read more...]