If you’re single and trying to keep the golden door closed, you may often find yourself grappling for insight on how to stay on track with that goal. My husband and I dated for over two years and were proud to have made it to the altar without dipping in each other’s cookie jars! Waiting till marriage wasn’t easy, but we believed that it was certainly possible. In this … [Read more...]
Christian Men Reveal Their 12 Reasons Why They Don’t Date Or Marry Christian Women; Part 2
To all the Christian ladies out there, are you wondering why Christian men prefer dating a non-Christian woman? When I started talking about this topic, I was surprised by how many single Christian men spoke up. They shared their own reasons as to why they no longer date or marry Christian women, and that is what I want to share with you all today. In this article: … [Read more...]
Single Christians Reveal the Top 5 Frustrations that They Have with the Church
In my last article, Top 10 Cliché Messages Singles Say They’re Tired of Hearing in Church, I shared the top 10 pieces of cliché advice singles have heard in church. The list was curated by a frustrated single Christian woman who was tired of hearing the same old messages targeted towards singles in church. So she asked her friends on social media to share clichéd messages … [Read more...]
Top 10 Cliché Messages Singles Say They’re Tired of Hearing in Church
The Church is doing singles wrong! At least that’s what some Christian single men and women truly believe. Off the heels of an inspiring sermon that was focused on helping singles have better relationships in 2017, one young woman wasn’t impressed. There's got to be more to this single life than this, she pondered. Apparently, she feels all messages towards singles in the … [Read more...]
7 Things Christian Men Say They Need from a Relationship. Are You Giving Them to Him?
In my previous article, I surveyed Christian men in order to gain clarity on why Christian men date/marry outside of the church. During that dialogue one point was consistently made. “A man needs to feel needed and valued and most women (not just Christian women) miss this point.” This very sentiment has been stated by non-Christian men as well. I believe if you surveyed … [Read more...]
10 Super Simple Ways to End Your Dating Slump
[tps_header]We all have hit a dating slump at one time or another. Where we are dateless for a long period of time or our dates seem to be a continuation of a very bad dream. Instead of moping around and feeling sorry for yourself, choose one of the following 10 ways to get back out there, shake things up and have some fun.[/tps_header] 1. Change your hangout spot Tour … [Read more...]
When an Ex Moves On, Do You Mope? NO. Here Are 3 Reasons to Rejoice
We might not ever admit it, but we all secretly hope to find a new romance before our exes do. But what happens when your ex has moved on—or even worse, got married— before you? It's a strange feeling, right? We see this often from the celebrity tabloids to the social media status updates. It's all juicy entertainment until it happens to you. And I’m not talking about your … [Read more...]
He Was Faithful, Driven and a Perfect Match for Me, so Why Did I End Our Relationship
The past 18 months has been a season of reconnecting with old friends who I’ve lost touch with over the years. Some encounters have been GREAT others have been to gain closure and move on. One encounter in particular was with a gentleman I use to date. After having breakfast, which turned into lunch and then an early dinner, I left open to the possibilities of rekindling our … [Read more...]
Relationship 101: 8 Ways to Overcome Communication Challenges
[tps_header]Several years ago, I realized I needed to improve my communication skills. I was in a relationship with a man who was open and willing to communicate, however our styles were so different that we never fully understood one another. In order to move forward in the relationship, we decided to work on understanding one another and communicating more … [Read more...]
4 Commitments for Christians That’ll Determine Their Readiness for Marriage
[tps_header]One question I get asked quite often is, “How do you know when you’re ready for marriage?” I used to give a very non-direct answer such as, “You're never really ready for marriage.” Then, I would go into a long explanation of that concept, which is largely true. As one of the most emphatic teachers of marriage preparation, I can tell you that even with … [Read more...]
It’s Not You, It’s Men: Why Men Don’t Commit
On this week’s episode of It’s Not You, It’s Men, hosts Rev. Run and Tyrese are joined by OWN network host Iyanla Vanzant and author Emily Wilcox to discuss commitment issues in relationships. When it comes to commitment, the panel felt women and men differed on the topic. Here are a few of the points that were highlighted during the discussion, including the break down … [Read more...]
I Was Tired of Being Played, so Now I’m Celibate
Is it really possible for a young woman in 2016 to date while being celibate? In this day and age, sex is at every turn in our world, staring us right in the face. Turn on any prime time TV drama, and you're bound to see a steamy love scene (roughly one per segment if you're a Scandal fan). Listen to pop radio, and you'll inevitably hear songs depicting the deed (or other … [Read more...]
Ladies: 6 Proven Tips to Master the Art of Flirting without Doing Too Much
I am a people person and have no problem starting a conversation with a complete stranger. It’s second nature for me. But I am often accused of flirting when I’m not. Because of this, I’ve made the connection that people are no longer used to socializing and meeting new people. Whether it’s the advent of texting, emailing or social media, real human interaction and all it … [Read more...]
Singles: 25 Questions to Ask Before You Give Them Your Heart, Time, and Body
I recently came across 20 Questions You Should Ask Before You Get Engaged by Bishop T. D. Jakes. As I began to scan the list, in my mind some of the questions really needed to be asked when you first meet someone. In today’s society, people are having sex before they know their partner's last name. Maybe if they knew the answer to a few pre-qualifying questions, they would … [Read more...]
5 Marriage Prep Lessons that Give Singles on the Hunt a Reality Check
Many singles desire to be married. Unfortunately, most singles spend their time dreaming of their wedding day and seeking a spouse rather than preparing to be one. Think you are ready for marriage? Here are 5 key areas that most overlook when preparing for marriage. Lesson 1 - Know your why Ask yourself, why do you want to be married? What purpose does marriage serve in your … [Read more...]